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Letter to My Younger Married Self – Even if I Don’t Know It!

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Dear (Twenty-Two year old) Rab,
You are loving and wise beyond your years. At twelve years old, you told me that I would be your wife
one day. That really scared me to death. How does someone so young, know about this type of love.
I was certainly no expert. But you told me, “I have seen it from my parents and grandparents. I know
what I want.”
So I decided to give it a shot. Everything was going great, until I turned 14. I started to mature and folks
began to notice especially the boys. You realized they were starting to notice, so you broke up with me,
thinking I better do it now before I have a reason and there is no way we can get back together. That was
another wise move. Even though we would date off and on, after the break-up, I needed to be
unencumbered until I was ready.
Unfortunately, I couldn’t capture the magic, I had with you. I tried! While still in high school, I met and
was engaged to another man. I even had a child with him, but in the end, it didn’t last.
So off I went to work in Boston, MA. We will still remain good friends, but in my heart, I knew something
was missing. You would feel it too. That’s why you will come and romance me.
After that, things will get really serious. At the age of 20, we will have a child and ultimately you will ask
me to marry you.
Well, today is that day. It’s our joyous wedding day and all of our friends and family have gathered here,
before God to bless this union. We both still have a lot of maturing to do however, true love and life
awaits us. We will learn and grow together.
I want to thank you for your solid work ethic and extraordinary ability to love me through any trial. As
we go through our marriage journey, please keep encouraging me to continue my education because it
will benefit our entire family. Thanks for allowing me learn the Truth about our God, Jehovah and share
it with everyone that I know and love.
Pour as much love and effort into yourself as you do others. I know that your high energy will infect our
home. Whether you are in a small apartment or large home, you are guaranteed to host loving
gatherings with family and friends. Our game nights with the kids will be awesome. Please plan on us
attending plenty of sporting events, Broadway shows, amusement parks and music concerts. You’ll have
Princess, Ninja Turtles, Power Ranger, and tea parties. Be ready for debates and open and honest
communication.
You’re a great listener now but you will hone your skills. You develop super powers to listen and process
information. For example, when you are busy eating, resting, watching TV, or playing a video game, you
manage to hear me. In fact, you can hear everyone in the room who is talking to you (your son, two
daughters and me). When I ask you what I just said you’ll recount each simultaneous conversation
succinctly.
When you are in good health, use your knowledge and abilities to accumulate genuine relationships and
not just material wealth. When your health is waning, may you be able to garner strength from your
loving strong bonds, support team, and family. We are the generation that our parents and
grandparents rely on, so thank you for your loving care and patience with them. The children are
watching you so, I’m glad that they love and respect your fine example as a doting husband and father.
May you be able to say that you lived out your dreams with the one that you love more than air. Plan
and budget your money wisely. Travel often. Go on vacation with the entire family and then take a trip
as a couple at least every two years. Maintain your love and strong marriage and it will prove to be a
blessing and protection to you. Just know that when your heart is full of love, you’ll have grandchildren
to make your heart and cup overflow.
Thank You for believing in me, even though I didn’t know it, right away!
I love you my Love!
Rhonda Harrison
 

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5 Reasons Why Saying “I Love You” On Valentine’s Day Could Be A Bad Idea!

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Valentine’s Day couldn’t have been more perfect. You and your date had a romantic dinner. You bought a card that truly expressed your feelings and the night ended with a wonderful night of sex.

Then you said it! I Love You! Deep in your heart you knew you weren’t ready, but you got caught up in the moment. Now that the words are out there in the open, here are 5 reasons why your mouth may have written a check you’re not ready to cash.

When you say “I Love You,” you are telling your partner that the physical attraction and unique bond is so strong, no side-chick can come between you.

When you say “I Love You,” you are telling your partner there is a promise of things to come. You are ready to talk about more than just what movie you are going to see or where you are going to eat for dinner. You are ready to talk about serious topics like marriage and raising a family.

When you say “I Love You,” you intend to stick around. This tell her that you ready to do the little things that make her smile, not just the normal “grand” gestures that usually happen strictly in dating relationships. You are also ready to COMMIT. This is huge especially if you are used to living life.

When you say “I Love You,” you are telling her you plan to put in the work to maintain and strengthen your love despite how crazy or emotional she gets. The more time you spend together, you more time you will get to know each others weaknesses and button points. It will be important that you acknowledge them and not use them to put a wedge in the relationship.

When you say “I Love You,” you are not just checking off the box in the relationship manual. A relationship is a marathon and not a sprint. Even though most days will be filled with love, there are some days not so much. You can’t just throw in the towel when you hit a rough patch. The two of you will have to sit down, communicate and figure out how you make it work.

Valentine’s Day is not just about cards and gifts.  If you tell your woman “I Love You,” you are giving her so much more. Make sure you are ready.

If you are unsure if you are ready to make the next step and you want to make sure, contact me for a free consultation at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com.

 

Coach Keith

 
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Posted by on February 16, 2016 in For My Single Peeps.

 

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iLOVESTRONG loves kissing! Do You?

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Living off the power of Valentine’s Day, I was looking forward to the long weekend and having time to kiss “PG”, and not just hello and goodbye either. There is just something about long-deep kisses with my wife that really charges me up, especially one’s that are spontaneous. There was only one problem, I was congested and the thought of PG possibly catching some flem during an exchange was enough for her to stay away.

We were able to do other things, but I realized that kissing her, was just as exciting as the other actions of intimacy.

According to a blog by the Huffington Post, Sex, seems to be on everyone’s mind: reasons why you’re not having it, how to get more of it — and maybe more so for those estimated 40 million Americans living in a sexless marriage (defined as having sex less than 10 times a year, according to therapists).

But instead of sprinting back to the bedroom, maybe one should take things slow and start with the basic building block of intimacy: kissing.

Kissing can be “more intimate than having sex” but is one of the first things to go in a long-term or sexless marriage, says Jill Blakeway, clinic director of the YinOva Center in New York City and author of the forthcoming book Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido. When kissing falls by the wayside, it’s the first step to losing passion in a relationship, she notes. “Kissing is one of the first ways we connect sexually,” she said. “And then over time it goes down. But there are some physical things that make kissing important. It decreases the level of cortisol, which is a stress hormone and it increases oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone. And that’s why, chemically speaking, kissing makes people more relaxed and builds connection. Chinese medicine says that the mouth and the tongue have a connection to the heart. So it’s the same idea. Kissing attaches people to each other.”

So in order to keep your iLOVESTRONG which intimate activity is important to maintaining closeness in your Marriage?

In the next blog we will discuss the health benefits of kissing!

Have a great day!

I Live, I  Learn and iLOVESTRONG!

Coach Keith

 
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Posted by on February 18, 2013 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Fun Friday..Day after Valentine’s

I hope everyone had a great night for Valentine’s Day? Please leave a comment and let me know how everything went last night? What was your favorite part of the evening, regardless if everything didn’t go as planned.  If your night was just plain awful, refer to yesterday’s post, How to Survive Valentine’s Day.  On this FUN Friday, I thought I would highlight, how some people really feel about Valentines; Day. I hope this isn’t you? Have a great iLOVESTRONG weekend.

Coach Keith

 

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Posted by on February 15, 2013 in Fun Friday

 

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iLOVESTRONG’s 5 tips for surviving Valentine’s Day!

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Valentine’s Day is the Super Bowl for Love. Right now, people including myself, are still thinking about last-minute details to make tonight special. I use to not like Valentine’s Day when my 7th grade crush didn’t acknowledge the carnation I sent her. If you are a little stressed for Valentine’s Day, here 5 tips to help you survive the day.

  1. Don’t judged your entire relationship based on this day. There is no guarantee things will work as place. 
  2. Don’t get so hyped over surprising your partner.  By reducing expectations, it will make the special event much greater when it works out, and not as painful if it doesn’t.
  3. Even if the gift isn’t exactly what you wanted. Remember it came from the heart and be honest and tell him/her. It’s how you build honesty and trust.
  4. If you are unsure what to get, use the K.I.S.S. method. A simple card, or love letter that truly expresses your feelings.
  5. If you don’t have a Valentine, don’t stress about it. There is always next year. Keep your options open and your expectations clear.

Happy Valentine’s Day and beyond.

iLoveStrong Coach

Keith Dent

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2013 in LoveStrong Tips

 

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Why isn’t your Spouse creative this Valentine’s Day? Blame the Sportstalkshows!

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According to most Arbitron ratings across the country, SportsTalk radio is usually at the top among men 25-54.

Ladies, don’t be surprised if you receive gifts from Vermont Teddy Bear‘s Hunka Love Bear, or flowers for Valentine’s Day,since they have inundated the sports radio market with commercials the past week as the gift you want on the special day.

In reality most men aren’t sure what to buy. They will fall into two categories, trying to find the perfect gift, or not really having a clue and getting something at the last minute. What I do know, they want to buy a gift that will lead them to staying up really late and receiving some really special candy.

Since, most men aren’t going to ask, iLoveStrong will ask for them. What would you like your spouse to give you for Valentine’s Day. Please answer the iLOVESTRONG Valentine’s Day poll.

 
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Posted by on February 13, 2013 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Valentine’s Day–it’s the Super Bowl of Love, but I prefer the regular season.

This morning I went to Shoprite to pick up strawberries for my son’s Valentine’s Day party. I thought I would be in and out of the store because I can usually find them  as soon as I enter the store. Instead it took me awhile to find them because they were replaced by roses and flower arrangements. Isn’t it funny that groceries stores and even gas stations have joined Hallmark, to prepare for this one event?

On average, Americans are spending $126 on their significant other according to the National Retail Federation. Another important issue is that after Valentine’s Day is a peak season for break-ups. The major reason is the build up of the perfect gift usually never really materializes.

What if we just focused on celebrating and honoring our significant others throughout the year, instead of one day. Would it take the pressure off you trying to find that perfect gift?

Here are some regular season gifts that you can give your spouse.

For the Men:

  1. Be creative when you express your love both in words and actions.
  2. Focus on what he is doing right.
  3. Take notice for what he has done for you and your family
  4. Show your love through actions he will appreciate.
  5. Instead of bragging about his gift, brag about him as a gift.

For the Ladies:

  1. Express to her that you need and value her.
  2. Keep her trust.
  3. Surprise her with what she would want done before she asks
  4. Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific!
  5. Show and tell her she matters more than any gift you could buy.

Now what will you do to show your spouse you love and honor them besides a gift.

No matter what you do, I hope you have a happy and enjoyable Valentine’s Day.

 
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Posted by on February 14, 2012 in Uncategorized

 

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