Valentine’s Day couldn’t have been more perfect. You and your date had a romantic dinner. You bought a card that truly expressed your feelings and the night ended with a wonderful night of sex.
Then you said it! I Love You! Deep in your heart you knew you weren’t ready, but you got caught up in the moment. Now that the words are out there in the open, here are 5 reasons why your mouth may have written a check you’re not ready to cash.
When you say “I Love You,” you are telling your partner that the physical attraction and unique bond is so strong, no side-chick can come between you.
When you say “I Love You,” you are telling your partner there is a promise of things to come. You are ready to talk about more than just what movie you are going to see or where you are going to eat for dinner. You are ready to talk about serious topics like marriage and raising a family.
When you say “I Love You,” you intend to stick around. This tell her that you ready to do the little things that make her smile, not just the normal “grand” gestures that usually happen strictly in dating relationships. You are also ready to COMMIT. This is huge especially if you are used to living life.
When you say “I Love You,” you are telling her you plan to put in the work to maintain and strengthen your love despite how crazy or emotional she gets. The more time you spend together, you more time you will get to know each others weaknesses and button points. It will be important that you acknowledge them and not use them to put a wedge in the relationship.
When you say “I Love You,” you are not just checking off the box in the relationship manual. A relationship is a marathon and not a sprint. Even though most days will be filled with love, there are some days not so much. You can’t just throw in the towel when you hit a rough patch. The two of you will have to sit down, communicate and figure out how you make it work.
Valentine’s Day is not just about cards and gifts. If you tell your woman “I Love You,” you are giving her so much more. Make sure you are ready.
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Living off the power of Valentine’s Day, I was looking forward to the long weekend and having time to kiss “PG”, and not just hello and goodbye either. There is just something about long-deep kisses with my wife that really charges me up, especially one’s that are spontaneous. There was only one problem, I was congested and the thought of PG possibly catching some flem during an exchange was enough for her to stay away.
We were able to do other things, but I realized that kissing her, was just as exciting as the other actions of intimacy.
According to a blog by the Huffington Post, Sex, seems to be on everyone’s mind: reasons why you’re not having it, how to get more of it — and maybe more so for those estimated 40 million Americans living in a sexless marriage (defined as having sex less than 10 times a year, according to therapists).
But instead of sprinting back to the bedroom, maybe one should take things slow and start with the basic building block of intimacy: kissing.
Kissing can be “more intimate than having sex” but is one of the first things to go in a long-term or sexless marriage, says Jill Blakeway, clinic director of the YinOva Center in New York City and author of the forthcoming book Sex Again: Recharging Your Libido. When kissing falls by the wayside, it’s the first step to losing passion in a relationship, she notes. “Kissing is one of the first ways we connect sexually,” she said. “And then over time it goes down. But there are some physical things that make kissing important. It decreases the level of cortisol, which is a stress hormone and it increases oxytocin, which is a bonding hormone. And that’s why, chemically speaking, kissing makes people more relaxed and builds connection. Chinese medicine says that the mouth and the tongue have a connection to the heart. So it’s the same idea. Kissing attaches people to each other.”
So in order to keep your iLOVESTRONG which intimate activity is important to maintaining closeness in your Marriage?
In the next blog we will discuss the health benefits of kissing!
Have a great day!
I Live, I Learn and iLOVESTRONG!
I hope everyone had a great night for Valentine’s Day? Please leave a comment and let me know how everything went last night? What was your favorite part of the evening, regardless if everything didn’t go as planned. If your night was just plain awful, refer to yesterday’s post, How to Survive Valentine’s Day. On this FUN Friday, I thought I would highlight, how some people really feel about Valentines; Day. I hope this isn’t you? Have a great iLOVESTRONG weekend.
Valentine’s Day is the Super Bowl for Love. Right now, people including myself, are still thinking about last-minute details to make tonight special. I use to not like Valentine’s Day when my 7th grade crush didn’t acknowledge the carnation I sent her. If you are a little stressed for Valentine’s Day, here 5 tips to help you survive the day.
- Don’t judged your entire relationship based on this day. There is no guarantee things will work as place.
- Don’t get so hyped over surprising your partner. By reducing expectations, it will make the special event much greater when it works out, and not as painful if it doesn’t.
- Even if the gift isn’t exactly what you wanted. Remember it came from the heart and be honest and tell him/her. It’s how you build honesty and trust.
- If you are unsure what to get, use the K.I.S.S. method. A simple card, or love letter that truly expresses your feelings.
- If you don’t have a Valentine, don’t stress about it. There is always next year. Keep your options open and your expectations clear.
Happy Valentine’s Day and beyond.
According to most Arbitron ratings across the country, SportsTalk radio is usually at the top among men 25-54.
Ladies, don’t be surprised if you receive gifts from Vermont Teddy Bear‘s Hunka Love Bear, or flowers for Valentine’s Day,since they have inundated the sports radio market with commercials the past week as the gift you want on the special day.
In reality most men aren’t sure what to buy. They will fall into two categories, trying to find the perfect gift, or not really having a clue and getting something at the last minute. What I do know, they want to buy a gift that will lead them to staying up really late and receiving some really special candy.
Since, most men aren’t going to ask, iLoveStrong will ask for them. What would you like your spouse to give you for Valentine’s Day. Please answer the iLOVESTRONG Valentine’s Day poll.
This morning I went to Shoprite to pick up strawberries for my son’s Valentine’s Day party. I thought I would be in and out of the store because I can usually find them as soon as I enter the store. Instead it took me awhile to find them because they were replaced by roses and flower arrangements. Isn’t it funny that groceries stores and even gas stations have joined Hallmark, to prepare for this one event?
On average, Americans are spending $126 on their significant other according to the National Retail Federation. Another important issue is that after Valentine’s Day is a peak season for break-ups. The major reason is the build up of the perfect gift usually never really materializes.
What if we just focused on celebrating and honoring our significant others throughout the year, instead of one day. Would it take the pressure off you trying to find that perfect gift?
Here are some regular season gifts that you can give your spouse.
For the Men:
- Be creative when you express your love both in words and actions.
- Focus on what he is doing right.
- Take notice for what he has done for you and your family
- Show your love through actions he will appreciate.
- Instead of bragging about his gift, brag about him as a gift.
For the Ladies:
- Express to her that you need and value her.
- Keep her trust.
- Surprise her with what she would want done before she asks
- Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific!
- Show and tell her she matters more than any gift you could buy.
Now what will you do to show your spouse you love and honor them besides a gift.
No matter what you do, I hope you have a happy and enjoyable Valentine’s Day.