Couples Conversation – Do You Need a Timeout?

 

A timeout in marriage is a way to regroup, cool off, and think about how to move forward. “Take a timeout” is good marriage advice when you’re stuck in the cycle of arguing about the same thing over and over again.

Some important things to think about when you call a timeout are as follows:

1. When to call a timeout

You need to know the right time to call it.

2. When not to call a timeout

You can’t call it if makes the conflict worse.

3. What a timeout is not

A timeout is not a way avoid the issue.

4. What to do during a timeout

The timeout is a way to breathe and think calmly about the situation so you can move forward.

Have you ever used a timeout during arguments with your spouse? How did it work?

 

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you like leave a comment, or reach out at info@keithdent.com if you are having challenges in your relationship and dating life.

Couples Conversation – How do you react to Conflict?

Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats recently celebrated their 10-year anniversary. In a recent blog post on BET, the couple mentioned they never have raised their voice to each other.

In a blog written by Douglas Ernst, he stated that.

Raising your voice does denote anger, but a healthier way of conveying that feeling is to simply say, “I am angry.” If you say what you mean and mean what you say with your spouse on a regular basis, then that statement alone will be treated with the seriousness it deserves.

So I would love to know. When was the last time you raised your voice to your spouse? Did you get the satisfaction you were looking for? Did the problem get resolved?

Couples Conversation – Will Relationships Change in a Post-Covid World?

 

When a COVID Vaccine is finally found, how will it impact the world of relationships, dating, and Sex?

Will we go back to the invisible labor that women have had to do for so long behind the scenes that have been totally brought into the open for many families during this pandemic?

Will couples no longer rush to cohabitate, because the ability to experiment and form relationships has been severely curtailed?

Will Zoom dating and Zoom sex become the norm?

All important things to think about as cases begin to rise as the pandemic lingers.

What do you think?

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you like leave a comment, or reach out at info@keithdent.com if you are having challenges in your relationship and dating life.

 

Couples Conversation – Forgiveness and Accountability. Is it Possible?

Problems can arise in your marriage when a romantic partner makes a mistake, or treats you bad hurts you badly. In your marriage, can you forgive them while holding them accountable? Ultimately, the goal is to reestablish the relationship and prevent them from hurting you again. But, will forgiveness motivate them to “see the error of their ways”? Or, is holding them accountable the key to making sure the situation does not happen again?

 

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you’re having difficulty forgiving and or holding your partner accountable, check out http://www.keithdent.com. If you need help NOW, drop Keith a message at info@keithdent.com.

 

 

 

Couples Conversation – Key to Holding a Relationship Together?

 

In a recent blog, Psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein said this, “In over 30 years as a psychologist, I have never had an adult look back at their childhood and complain that their parents were too understanding. And similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but never really understood each other. My point is that many relationships have broken up and marriages have been torn apart not because the partners didn’t love each other but because they didn’t understand one another.”

So what do you do to better understand your partner?

Do you need help in this area?

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you’re in desperate need to understand your partner better to strengthen you bond contact him at info@keithdent.com.

Couples Conversation – Your Growth! Do You Get Support?

Are you growing, but your partner and is resistant to that growth?  If ther is resistant, it can create an impasse for you as a couple.

If you are growing as an individual, has your partner noticed and what is he/she doing to support you in your growth?

Growth in a marriage requires attention, effort, intention and strong communication. In other words, change.

 

Keith Dent is a certified coach and author of In the Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you feel you need a change, but am not sure how to communicate that to your partner contact Keith at info@keithdent.com

Couples Conversation – A partner’s growth!

 

A Growth-focused relationships are all about encouraging each other’s challenges and dreams. With that said, how are you inspiring your partner to take on a new professional or personal goal? In what area does your partner have room to grow?

S2S QOTD – Couple Time!

 

Studies show that those who maintained their love for each other scheduled time to be together almost every day have better communication, solidifies commitment and it offers an exciting way to de-stress. While their daily time together varied, the time they end each week was almost always over fifteen hours. What do you think?

I would love to hear your thoughts?  How much couple time is needed with your spouse in order to add value to your relationship?

If you would like to share a great story, please do so at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com

 

S2S QOTD. Do You Have a Contemptuous Marriage?

 

Did you know contempt can be considered the number one factor that tears couples apart!

People who are focused on criticizing their partners miss a whopping 1/2 of the positive things their partners are doing and they see negativity when it’s not there.

You are also making your partner feel invisible and worthless by either focusing solely on the negative or ignoring your partner all together.

According to a research study, individuals who treat their partners with contempt and criticism not only kill the love, but they also kill their partner’s ability to fight off viruses and cancers. Being mean is the death knell of relationships.

If this is you?  How can you turn this around. How can you in fact be kinder and gentler to your partner.

If you need help, reach out to info@strive2succeedcoaching.com.

 

S2S Question of the Day!! Mother-in-Law Drama.

I hope everyone is enjoying their Monday.  I ran across this article this morning about a man that was desperate to get his mother-in-law out of the house to save his marriage.

So I figured, I would get the ball rolling this morning as the question of the day.

Would you request your mother-in-law get out of your house if it meant saving your marriage?

I would love to hear your responses?