I know you make think this is a typo, but for the month of March I am declaring it “Marriage Madness.” I am going to incorporate my love for college basketball with my love of relationships/marriage. I love NCAA tournament so much that I usually take the first two days off to watch as many games as possible. It’s a wonderful experience watching the last second shots and the underdog messing up everyone’s tourney bracket (including my own) until ultimately a champion is crowned.
In all seriousness as part of “Marriage Madness” I am going to focus specifically on one topic that can really leave our relationship in a state of madness, our finances. As a relationship coach, I am going to prep my couples as if you were players on my team. I will post one blog about the topic on the today and next week in preparation for Monday March 14th, the week of the tournament. Then I will post specific topics and exercises that will help you as a couple get on track so you can win the ultimate prize, The Best Marriage in the Country.
In order to prep for the tournament,click on the link for our survey. The survey will give you an idea of the topics that you need to discuss as a couple. The survey is not meant to make you uncomfortable, but to open the lines of communication. Answer the series of questions based on a scale of 1-10 with 10 being the best.
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Team, I look forward to going into battle with you to win the ultimate crown. Financial Freedom in our Marriages.
“A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart’s.” – Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When we get married, we expect our marriages and the roles we create should be a certain way. For example, the man should be the provider, the woman the caretaker. If you try to hold onto those roles when it may not be what is needed to make your home thrive can be a source of stress and a challenge in your relationship.
In your marriage, both of you should come to some a AGREEMENT about what you desire and expect from the other person. A good way to do this is through a Family Mission Statement.
Last week, we gave you the symptoms for Weekend Relationship Syndrome.
I hope you found that you didn’t suffer from this disease. If you did, don’t worry, you aren’t alone.
One of the by-products of this illness is the negative energy that flows all around you and your marriage. The first step to eliminating this is to bring positive energy back into your relationship. Here are 4 energy boosters needed for you to get you back on track.
- Take care of yourself as individuals. – If we tend to not feel good about ourselves, we will normally voice that to our partners. Instead, we will deflect our pain onto them. STOP THAT! Figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself before you take care of the relationship.
- Break free of old habits. – Your relationship can get into a rut, especially if you always do the same things, argue the same way, or go out to the same places. Exploring and learning new things can spice up any relationship.
- Make intimacy a priority. – Hugs can do a lot to break down intimacy barriers. Make a point to start there then find different ways of touching in order to create positive energy.
- Make it a point to not say and do anything to deliberately injure the relationship. A person that is careful will “measure twice, cut once.” Being deliberate not to hurt your partner takes strength and planning. Work together to design a strategy on how you will interact with each other in times of conflict or pain.
Following this prescription will help cure a case of Weekend Relationship Syndrome and create the positive energy flow needed for a sucess.