Hello my LoveStrong family. I usually write my posts about marriage and relationships from a Western perspective, but there have been several articles that I have come across that I figured I would inform you how other countries deal with the subject of marriage and relationships.
Couples no longer have to get married face to face.
Individuals in China are going through great lengths and finances to find their Soul Mate.
What other interesting marriage rituals in other parts of the world should our LoveStrong family know about.
Please share it with Coach Keith in the comment section.
Keith Dent is the President of Strive 2 Succeed Coaching Services. He hosts LOVESTRONG couples webinar every 4th Sunday at 9 pm. To register, sign up at http://www.anymeeting.com/StriveSucceed1. Or call in the day of the show at 213-416-1560 code: 526795745.
As I was looking at the National Healthy Marriage Resource Center, I ran across this interesting study called the Heart Chart. Drs. Les and Leslie Parrot from the TwoofUs.org have done some extensive research and created this Heart Chart.
The Heart Chart reveals what you are saying about love and marriage and provides you with customized information related specifically to your marriage mindset.
Why is this important? With the U.S. divorce rate is at an all-time high, with half of all marriages ending in divorce or permanent separation. A broad consensus has emerged among researchers that changes in the American family structure have had significant negative impacts on the well-being of children as well as adults. Previous research has shown that the implications for children who experience the divorce of their parents include elevated risk for conduct disorders and psychological problems; low self-esteem; a greater likelihood of obtaining a lower level of education and lower-status jobs; and greater potential to experience trouble in their own marriages.
Individuals between the ages of 18-30 are looking for partners who fit into their lifestyles and complement their personal goals and individual needs, but many are not confident that they possess the tools to attain this goal.
Before you get serious, take this quiz (see link below), to see where your partner’s heart is?
On this fun Friday, I know most of you are figuring your Osculating plan (kissing) for the weekend based on yesterday’s post on How to Bring Sexy Back. I just wanted to reiterate these three elements to avoid.
I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that I would address kissing a little more in-depth. Sorry it has taken me a little longer than expected.
According to the 2009 General Social Survey, which has tracked the social behaviors of Americans since 1972, estimates that about 15 percent of married couples have not had sex with their spouse in the last six months to one year, according to Denise A. Donnelly, associate professor of sociology at Georgia State University, who has studied sexless marriage.
Provided there is no medical condition that is causing the problem. I can venture a guess that the art of osculation a.k.a. kissing is one of the missing pieces to solving the sexless marriage issue. If you can somehow revive the lost art of kissing it may lead to other benefits as well.
Here are some reasons to consider:
Kissing will improve your overall health.
1.) Kissing boosts immunity. A recent study reported in the journal Medical Hypotheses says kissing may increase a woman’s immunity from Cytomegalovirus. Cytomegalovirus, contracted through mouth to mouth contact, can cause infant blindness and other birth defects if the mother is a carrier during pregnancy. Otherwise, the bug is relatively harmless in adults. Kissing has long been thought to be a way to pass along bugs and thus strengthen the body’s defenses. With the extra saliva generated from kissing it can wash bacteria off your teeth, which can help break down oral plaque.
Much of the cortex is devoted to picking up sensations from around the lips, cheeks, tongue and nose. Out of 12 cranial nerves, five of them are picking up the data from around the mouth. It is built to pick up the most sensitive feelings—the most intricate tastes and smells and touch and temperature. And when you’re kissing somebody, you can really hear them and see them and feel them. So kissing is not just kissing. It is a profound advertisement of who you are, what you want and what you can give.
Since kissing has been lacking in the sexless marriage it might also cause you to question why you chose this person to marry.
3.) Kissing burns calories! Depending on different reports, anywhere from 2 to 6 calories a minute.
Kissing can persuade your partner!
1. Being an overall good kisser can persuade your partner to get between the sheets instead of remaining on top of the sheets.
2. Good kissing bring back feelings of bonding and attachment too. Sharing a passionate kiss can re-create and maintain a feeling of connectedness in relationships.
3. Good kissing can also lead to arousal and sex. Passionate make-outs are often necessary (and effective) precursors to further physical intimacy.
Good kissing will require you to brush up on your elements!
1.As so aptly portrayed in the movie Hitch, you’ve got to be all in. Both men and women also found assertiveness attractive in a kisser.
2.Touching, caressing, and general physical can lead to more deeper passionate kisses.
3.Get back to the basics! Closed-mouth kissing initially, with minimal saliva exchange (especially for women). Soft, moist lips were preferable – but a drooling, tongue-down was not. Over time, kissing could work up to greater “passion” and “intimacy”.
In the end if you want to bring sexy back to your marriage. Start with a kiss!
Yesterday at the New York Knicks game vs. the Miami Heat, an unsuspecting woman was blindsided with the proposal from her boyfriend on the Jumbotron. On ESPN’sMike N Mike this morning, they were killing the guy for his unromantic gesture.
As a guy, we think about how we can really make a splash to our potential mate, especially if that isn’t normally our style. Before, I was going to propose to my wife, I had a grand gesture in mind, but I had the sense to consult my wife’s best friend first. I am glad that I did because the event would have turned out horrible for the both of us.
What do you ladies/gents think? Is a public proposal over the at a sporting event a good idea? What is the best public proposal you have ever seen? I liked this one.