When it comes to Sexual Assault, our Sons and Daughters need to hear our Voice!

Last weekend, I wrote an article about titled The Truth I need My Daughter and (Your Sons) to know about Sexual Assault  for Your Tango. If you didn’t get a chance to read it, you can Click Here.

One of the things that was missing were some statistics that would bolster the point that we need more open discussion with our kids when they are off to college.  Case in point, I just received an e-mail from a parent that just found out their child was assaulted over a year ago.

So I have enclosed a picture that I found from the Daily Texan that can help spark a conversation with your teenager.

If you are having trouble talking to your teenager about this topic and you need some questions that might help foster a discusion, please contact me at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com

S2S Love Question of the Day!

Knowing what you now know about marriage, what advice would you have given your younger married self? What advice would you give a new couple about to get married?

What Are The 5 Things You Try To Put In Your Marriage Box?

Good afternoon and Happy 2015.  I ran across this poem and I thought I would share it with you. Each year, our marriage/relationships offer new challenges. We must try harder and think of our marriages that way, and not allow issues of the past to hold us back.

With that said, I would like to ask you, what are the 5 things you would like to add to your marriage. Since you come to the marriage box starts out empty, how will you give, love, serve and honor your partner in the coming year to make sure it stays full?

Coach Keith

How to make your strong, independent wife powerless: 10 rules of marriage for an insecure husband.

There is a phenomenon that is sweeping the country. It started in the deep south and is slowly making it’s way across the country. Insecure men are dating and marrying strong, powerful women. I wasn’t sure how they are doing it, except possibly using their fragility and sensitivity to do it. As a man, how do you look in the mirror and feel like you measure up to you wife? Until, I came across the rules from a husband that his wife lives by everyday.

An insecure man’s guide to making your wife feel powerless. Here are the 10 Rules:

Rule #1 – You must not have single friends and cannot communicate or spend time with them.

Rule #2 – Your wife must be home when you get home regardless of who she is with or what she is doing.

Rule#3 – Your wife must go to be when you go to bed regardless of what time of day or what chores need to be tended to prior to bed.

Rule #4  – Your wife must watch whatever you want to watch on TV and cannot read a book or do anything other than lay in bed watching your selection. And remember she must be naked,or in sexy lingerie at all times.

Rule #5 – Your wife cannot leave town for any reason regardless if its for work or family.

Rule #6 – Your wife must do as she is told and do not question.

Rule #7 – Must feed, wash and groom me as requested.

Rule #8 – When in public your wife must be seen and not heard. She can’t do anything that will result in embarrassment for you.

Rule #9 – Your wife must and I mean must have sex with your before leaving for work and before going to sleep. And must not complain about it either.

Rule #10 – Rules will change or added as you see fit in order to remove more power.

So what do you think about the rules. Will they catch on and make their way into your home?

Let’s Discuss..I Love You, but I want to Wait..Are you down with that?

 

As I was driving in to work this morning, I was listening to the BBC and they let me know that this afternoon’s Tell Me More Program was going to be about Abstinence. Of course my ears perked up, since I used to be an abstinence educator and thought maybe abstinence was gaining more momentum among single individuals. (Click on the link below to hear the story)

http://www.npr.org/2013/01/02/168463370/chastity-why-wait

It’s nice to hear that it’s a growing trend by the fact there was recent article featured in Ebony magazine and a reality show called Virgin Diaries. Today, I even received a comment from an individual that was has been married 17 years that wished she had waited. One of the things that was also interesting was that only women were bold enough to speak out on the topic.

Today’s Let’s Discuss topic really has to do with abstinence among men. You normally don’t hear men speak out against having sex before marriage. Every decade or so, you will hear about a pro athlete that abstains from sex i.e. Tim Tebow and A.C. Green. In a society where the hook-up with as many women as possible before you decide to settle down mentality is the norm, are we ready to accept a man who would prefer to be abstinent before marriage and just focus on you as a woman?

What would you do if your man told you he wanted to be abstinent until marriage? Could you LoveStrong and wait? If he was the one, what changes would you have to make to ensure you aren’t in a position to break his promise?

Coach Keith

Let’s Discuss? Would you rather choose the Chicken or the Egg?

In the 2012 Marriage Study. new study by psychological scientist Paige Harden of the University of Texas at Austin. The study found that the later a person first had sexual intercourse not only corresponded with a higher education level and household income, but also found they were less likely to be dissatisfied with their relationships in adulthood.

However,  the study also found that these latecomers were also less likely to be married and have fewer romantic relationships.

The report used data from the National Longitudinal Study on Adolescent Health that followed 1659 sibling pairs who were followed from the age of 16 to young adulthood (roughly around 29). But the study had a particular method of categorizing ages and sexual experience: “Early” sexual intercourse was younger than the age of 15, so called “on-time” was 15 to 19 and “later” was over 19.

So let’s discuss, would you rather wait to have sex with your partner before you really feel he is the right one, or would you want to have sex early in the relationship as an indicator of your compatibility?

 

 

Let’s Discuss – I don’t need to get married, me and my baby-daddy are good!

In part 3 of our 10 most interesting marriage studies for 2012 deals with the subject of cohabitation. Contrary to what we hear in the states about cohabitation, the benefits of marriage diminish over time, while unmarried couples who live together over 6 years experience greater happiness and self-esteem.

The February issue of the Journal of Marriage and Family, “Found that differences between marriage and cohabitation tend to be small and dissipate after a honeymoon period. Also while married couples experienced health gains — likely linked to the formal benefits of marriage such as shared health care plans — cohabiting couples experienced greater gains in happiness and self-esteem,” said study author Kelly Musick, an associate professor of policy analysis and management at Cornell University’s College of Human Ecology, in a journal news release. “For some, cohabitation may come with fewer unwanted obligations than marriage and allow for more flexibility, autonomy and personal growth.”

So let’s discuss. I would love to get some answers to this response. Personally, PG and I lived in totally different states. She wanted to move in together, but I was hesitant to her dissatisfaction. Eventually, we did live together for a short period of time before we got married.

1. For those couples that lived together for a long period of time, do you feel your relationship is good the way it is? Why? How would marriage change it?

2. Did your relationship improve when you got married after living together, or did it get worst?

Coach Keith

Let’s Discuss – How did you get rid of your Wedding Hangover?

 

Part 2 of our discussion series surrounds the alleged Honyemoon Phase. It turns out couples are happiest AFTER their first year of marriage, according to an Australian study. Newlyweds were found to have a lower happiness score than couples who had been married longer. This was also substantiated in one my previous post The 5 things I learned after 16 years of marriage.

Researcher Melissa Weinberg attributed this to a “wedding hangover,” or the depressed feeling couples get when the wedding is over and the marriage begins.

So let’s discuss, did you have a Wedding Hangover?  What remedies can you offer newlyweds to avoid the symptoms?