Brothas! If you are cheating be prepared to answer these 7 questions!

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Brothas, if you want my advice about marriage and relationships, there is one thing you should definitely know. If you are cheating on your woman, more likely than not that she already knows about it, or at least has an idea.

Most girlfriends and wives are highly in tune with their boyfriends or husbands mannersisms and behaviors not just towards them, but other women as well.

If you disagree with me and you feel you can continue to have an affair without ever facing the wrath of your partner, then you do you. I can pretty much guarantee that there will, indeed, come a time when you walk through the door and find her wide awake and waiting in the dark to ask you a full laundry list of questions.

So fellas, be prepared to ask these 7 questions if your partner suspects you of cheating.

Keith Dent is a relationship, life coach at Strive2Succeed Coaching. He is the author of the In The Paint: How to Win at the Game of Love and his work has appeared on sites like The Good Men Project, MamaMia, and The Real Dad’s Network. If this is you and you feel you are having trouble telling your partner about that you are cheating, contact me via email and let’s have a chat.

15 Ways to Say To Your Woman, I Love and Appreciate You!

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Hey, men! Have you ever adamantly said something to your girlfriend or wife along the lines of, “You know I love you and appreciate you!”, only for her to wait for a beat and reply, “Thank you! But … why?”

Suddenly, you’re standing there tongue-tied, because like most men, you get uncomfortable when you feel vulnerable, and trying to articulate your deepest, innermost feelings can be rough.

It’s understandable for you to feel that way, but she’s still going to want to hear you say something romantic that tells her how much she means to you. — and one great idea too many people giving advice about dating, relationships and marriage forget is that there are so many creative ways to say “I love you” without necessarily having to come up with words of your own!

Here are 15 sweet things to say to your girlfriend or wife woman that say “I love you” and let her know you appreciate her, from the lyrics of some of the best romantic songs.

15 New Year’s Resolutions For Couples To Make As A Team!

Now that 2020 has come to a close, I’m sure folks are ready to turn the page a move into 2021.

Resolutions are great because they gives you a chance to clear your mind, reflect on what’s important to you, and move in a positive direction, provide concrete goals that can give you focus and stability, and show others that you are striving towards your dreams. In fact, 74% of Americans say they’re determined to learn something new, make a lifestyle change or set a personal goal in an effort to better themselves in 2021. You can’t imagine the number of people that will be positively impacted!

When we think about resolutions, we usually think of individual goals we want to achieve for ourselves, like losing weight, getting a new job, or saving more money.

But my advice is that many relationships would improve if partners create New Year’s resolutions together as a couple.

Why is that important?

It means you will have a built-in accountability partner. Remember one of the famous acronyms for team is “Together Each Achieves More.” This will ensure that you and your partner stay committed to the resolutions you create.

You can also have fun with it by making it a date night activity and continuing to do so throughout the year as the two of you check-in with each other to see how your resolutions are going.

Finally, this provides an opportunity to celebrate your successes together. Being intentional about improving your lives will automatically improve your relationship or marriage.

To help you start your own resolution list, here are my 15 best ideas for New Year’s resolutions couples can make as a team.

1. Take a look back at the past year together.

By focusing on what happened the past year, you more than likely would have forgotten the little squabbles that impacted your marriage at the moment.

Looking back on the fond memories of the past year will help you look forward optimistically to the year ahead.

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2. Create a nutrition plan together.

It’s hard for an individual to stick to eating healthy when the other isn’t.

Creating a healthy eating plan together with exercise can not only help you lose weight, but you will also have more energy to do fun things together.

3. Set aside time on a daily or weekly basis to check in with each other.

Since communication can be the biggest challenge to a healthy marriage or relationship, it’s imperative that you carve out space to check in with each other.

This shouldn’t be the where you just check-in to talk about your resolutions, but talk about life in general.

4. Create a family mission statement.

This statement allows the two of you, as well as your children, to feel a sense of unity and  purpose.

It lets each member know that everyone is truly committed to each other’s success and growth.

5. Pay off a credit card.

It’s no secret that finances can be a source of stress and worry among couples.

Creating a strict budget or using the snowball method to pay down debt can make you generally happier.

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6. When it comes to sex, explore how you can be more creative.

If you have been married for a while making sex a priority can be challenging.

By infusing a little more creativity and fun in your sex life will all of a sudden make it a must thing to do for your marriage to thrive.

7. Read and discuss a helpful book about relationships and/or marriage.

Sometimes it’s hard to articulate the things you want out of marriage.

Having a book discussion about marriage can really get to the heart of the matter without trying to figure things out on your own.

8. Take turns choosing a new activity to try together each month.

This does a couple of things.

First, you get a chance to have a new experience as a couple every month. If nothing else, this means you will have 12 new stories to tell by the end of the year.

Second, by alternating who chooses the month’s activity, you will have to keep your partner in mind because you will want them to enjoy the event as much as you will.

9. Create a proactive plan for handling conflict.

As you are working to achieve your goals, you can’t expect every day to be sunny and rosy.

If you have avoided conflicts in the past, make plan figure out how to resolve them by remaining respectful.

10. Schedule your annual doctor’s appointments.

If you have your health, you have everything.

11. Choose a cause to volunteer for together.

This is a great way to live out your values and have a wonderful bonding experience at the same time.

You can get a fresh perspective on your life as husband and wife when you are supporting an organization or a cause that really needs it.

12. Plan to host a dinner party for other couples.

There is strength in numbers.

Hosting a dinner party allows you to talk about marriage in a fun and silly way and helps you understand that you’re not alone. Remember, social-distancing is still in affect.

13. Set a goal with your children.

Creating a family goal will not only teach your children how to set goals for themselves, it will create a strong bond with your children as a family unit.

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14. Schedule some time for yourselves.

Even with all of these mutual goals the two of you are working on, you must still leave some time for each of you to take for yourselves.

You will value each other more as a couple when you make the space and room to develop as individuals.

15. Plan a celebration.

If you can make and achieve at least 80% of these resolutions by the end of the year, 2020 will be awesome. Celebrate your growth as a couple.

Happy New Year!

Keith Dent is a certified coach and author of “In the Paint: How to Win at the Game of Love.” If you are struggling to communicate more effectively with your partner and set future goals, contact him via email to learn more about how he can help.

Best of Black Men Speak #1

In the #1 episode of 2020, I interviewed actors Herve Clermont, Chris Williams,, and Christopher T. Wood as we discussed their journeys in Hollywood. We covered several topics from how they got started to the different microaggressions they faced trying to hone their craft. This episode was so fun, and it helped me understand their greatness wasn’t just on screen, but what they did daily to challenge themselves and to keep working despite the obstacles. If you didn’t get a chance to hear their stories, check it out now https://blackmenspeak.libsyn.com/black-men-speak-epidsode-6-pt-1.

Make Sure The Man You Choose Has These 10 Personality Traits?

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It’s exciting to find a man who’s ready to stop playing dating games and start focusing on what one woman — you — have to offer in relationships, but before you even consider committing to him as “boyfriend and girlfriend”, let alone think seriously about getting married and making him your husband, it’s critical to know which personality traits to look for as signs that he will actually be a good boyfriend (and, potentially, a good husband).

This means it’s time to get to know and understand the aspects of his character and personality, and in doing so, you’ll strengthen the relationship you’ve begun even more.

To understand the 10 Personality Traits your future boyfriend needs click here.

Keith Dent is a relationship and life coach, as well as the author of the “In The Paint: How to Win at the Game of Love.” His work has appeared on sites like The Good Men Project, MamaMia, and The Real Dad’s Network. If you are having issues figuring out which personality traits you need in a man, give him a shout via email.

Are You the Controller in Your Relationship? Here are 7 Signs.

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  1. Do you always criticize your partner?
  2. Do you isolate them from your friend and family?
  3. Do you threaten to leave the relationship or harm yourself?
  4. Do you always keep score?
  5. Do you make them feel guilty?
  6. Are you overjealous?
  7. Do you ever let your partner have any alone time?

If you do these things, you’re controlling your partner and ultimately damaging their self-esteem and the relationship.

You can fix-it if you desire. Click here for more details.

Keith Dent is a certified empowerment coach by The Institute for Professional Empowerment Coaching (IPEC). He has 10 years’ experience and is the author of In the Paint – How to Win at the Game of LoveContact Coach Keith for a free consultation. You can read more about him at http://www.keithdent.com.

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9 Signs The Person You Love is Really Manipulating You!

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You’ve been dating for what feels like forever, and at long last, you feel positive you’ve met “the one” — that perfect person you’ve been waiting to fall in love with for so long.

What makes it especially exciting is that the feeling is obviously mutual. They’ve been showering you with the gifts, affection, and love you’ve craved, and which you’d almost given up hope of ever finding.

Unfortunately, your friends aren’t so sure about your new relationship.

They may feel your new partner is really manipulating you and you don’t even know it. To see the 9 signs you are being emotionally manipulated, click here.

Couples Conversation – Do You Need a Timeout?

 

A timeout in marriage is a way to regroup, cool off, and think about how to move forward. “Take a timeout” is good marriage advice when you’re stuck in the cycle of arguing about the same thing over and over again.

Some important things to think about when you call a timeout are as follows:

1. When to call a timeout

You need to know the right time to call it.

2. When not to call a timeout

You can’t call it if makes the conflict worse.

3. What a timeout is not

A timeout is not a way avoid the issue.

4. What to do during a timeout

The timeout is a way to breathe and think calmly about the situation so you can move forward.

Have you ever used a timeout during arguments with your spouse? How did it work?

 

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you like leave a comment, or reach out at info@keithdent.com if you are having challenges in your relationship and dating life.