Question of the Day – iLoveStrong

4 Ways to Know if Your Marriage is Meeting Your Needs.

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Can you believe that even though you are married, you might not be meeting your partner’s needs?

For example you might assume that you are no longer have to check-in with your spouse every day, since you go to him or her. On the contrary, you might have to do it more because other distractions like work and kids can keep you from really connecting. And if this is one of your partner’s core need, this can really cause friction in your marriage.

So if you want to know if your partner’s needs are being met here are FOUR questions that you should ask to get the dialogue going?

What are your partner’s 3 basic core needs?

According to Willard Harley, author of His Needs/Her Needs, failing to make your partner happy is one of the main sources of conflict within a marriage. Most successful couples don’t get married because the sex was so incredible they needed it all the time, or they knew they would be financially set for life. People get married because they feel their partner will meet their most important needs. If you don’t know what they are, then you should ask.

What are your needs?

This is important because if your needs aren’t being met, you surely aren’t going to meet your partner’s needs. If you are without your needs being met, then you resent your partner for it. Make sure you are clear on what you need and communicate that to your partner.

Are you ready to meet their needs?

This may involve some adjustments on your part. Let’s go back to the check-in example. If you have a very busy schedule, you will have to be strategic on how you show your partner that his/her need to hear from you is being met. You may have to carve out time on your calendar or be creative on how you check in. The question you want to ask yourself, “Is this person important in your life and will you do what it takes to make them happy?”

Will your partner meet your needs?

If your partner is tuned in, he/she will make sure that your needs are met. If not, you will need to have a frank conversation before you go elsewhere to have your needs met.

If you feel your needs aren’t being met, but you are having difficulty talking about it, please contact Keith Dent for a free consultation at info@keithdent.com.

Why Are We So Consumed by Infidelity?

We as a society may be consumed by Infidelity because couples have a difficult time answering these questions that are about to be examined in Esther Perel’s new book The State of Affairs. The book goes on sale this Tuesday.

Are we still passionately in love with our spouse?
Are there some fulfillments that even a good marriage can’t provide?
Do erotic desires sometime trump emotional needs?
Is it okay to love more than one person?
Are we a nation that can no longer be monogamous?

These are just some of the questions that are affecting our ability to step beyond the boundary of marriage.

What other challenges do you think we face as a society?

S2S Question of the Day – Divorce

Today’s question has to deal with Divorce. According to a 2011 article in Match.com, the year in which most divorces occur is during year 4?

Since the age of first marriages has increase, why do you think divorce is happening so soon? #s2sinmarriageqotd

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S2S Question of the Day – Will You Vote?

It’s been a very exhausting 2016 election season with email scandals, sexual harassment videos and just an overall sense of uneasiness in the country.

With tomorrow being election day, the question of the day has to do with tomorrow’s vote.

What would you do if you found out that your partner voted for a different candidate that you?

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S2S Question of the Day! – Healthy Relationships

The question of the Day has to do with Healthy Relationships!

In a study from the University of Chicago, researchers found that when a husband has a high level of positivity, there’s less conflict in his relationship. Likewise, the way partners respond to each other’s good news matters too. In a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that the way couples react to each other’s good news—either with excitement, pride, or indifference—is crucial in forming a strong bond.

So the question of the day is What does a Healthy Relationship look like? What components are necessary?

S2S Question of the Day? – Responsiveness

The Question of the Day has to do with Responsiveness?

How responsive are you to your partner’s needs outside of the bedroom?

According to a recent article in the Wall Street Journal, the more responsive you are to your partner, the more sexual desire they will feel for you. This is especially important because the all out passionate that just automatically comes with marriage will fade between one and three years.

If you feel you have lost that sexual desire for your spouse or vice versa and need help on how to get it back, please contact me for a free consultation at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com.

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S2S Question of the Day – Is Cohabitation King?

In a national survey conducted by the Barna Group. Cohabitation is next step in seriousness when it comes to relationships. Out of the 1097 adults surveyed in April 2016, they found that that 65 percent of Americans now approve of cohabiting before to tying the knot, while 35 percent do not.

So the S2S Question of the Day is, do you believe cohabitation is a good idea? If you took this route before marriage, how did it strengthen your marriage vs. non-cohabitation?