She Said/He Said – Cedric Weary’s Turn

I know, I usually follow-up right away with He Said the next day after, She Said, but it took me awhile to get it. Sorry about that! I hope you enjoy the other side of Weary family, Cedric, who is musically gifted, just as Daleesa is gifted as a hair designer. I first met him at Cicely Tyson School for the Performing Arts. Who knew he would end up direct some knowledge about marriage.

1. What was the initial thing that attracted you to your wife/husband?  

She was tall, thin and had a very nice hairstyle. She was very beautiful but not ‘full of herself’, and seemed to be genuinely a nice person. She had goals and dreams that she was actively striving for. She laughed at my jokes!


2. When was the moment that you can remember she was the one you wanted to marry? 

It was actually pretty early in our relationship, but being young and VERY slow to act, I waited a long time to ask.  I would say summer of our second year together was when there was no doubt.

3. In your 17 years of marriage what has surprised you the most about marriage? 

How much crap real love can put up with and come out even stronger. There have been ‘Jerry Springer moments’ and ‘Oprah moments’, but through all of them we have survived and came out stronger.

4. What are the three things that have helped you maintain your marriage longevity?  

1. Communication is a huge key. When you stop talking you are headed for trouble.

2. Knowing you are not the boss! It is a partnership, compromise is key.

3. Getting married for the right reasons. Not because of finances, solely on looks, total package.

5. Knowing what you know now, would you have approached marriage in a different way early on? How?  

Yes, a lot different. I would have not made so many bad choices and put stress on my wife because of my immaturity and wanting things my way early on.


6. What are 3 things modern-day couples should do in order to achieve longevity in their marriage?

1. Talk, Talk, Talk, Talk! Communicate and don’t assume or take each other for granted.

2. Continue to do those little things you did to get your mate interested in you. Just because you are married does not mean no more dates, flowers, romantic get aways. It means you get to do them all the time with a person that will appreciate you for it and loves you.

3. Give and take….Give till it hurts and take less than you give. Your effort will be appreciated and will be returned 100 times over if you married the right person for the right reasons.

If you know any couple that is married 15 years and over and would like to be featured in He Said/She Said, please drop a line to

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