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About ilovestrong

Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

Do Ultimatums Work?

Putting your foot down and issuing any sort of ultimatum in your marriage is a very risky call: Sure, you may get what you want, but if your spouse is resistant to your demands, there could be dire consequences.

When have you made an ultimatum in your marriage and it actually worked? How did you feel afterwards?

 
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Posted by on September 23, 2020 in Uncategorized

 

Couples Conversation – Do You Need a Timeout?

 

A timeout in marriage is a way to regroup, cool off, and think about how to move forward. “Take a timeout” is good marriage advice when you’re stuck in the cycle of arguing about the same thing over and over again.

Some important things to think about when you call a timeout are as follows:

1. When to call a timeout

You need to know the right time to call it.

2. When not to call a timeout

You can’t call it if makes the conflict worse.

3. What a timeout is not

A timeout is not a way avoid the issue.

4. What to do during a timeout

The timeout is a way to breathe and think calmly about the situation so you can move forward.

Have you ever used a timeout during arguments with your spouse? How did it work?

 

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you like leave a comment, or reach out at info@keithdent.com if you are having challenges in your relationship and dating life.

 
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Posted by on August 10, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD, Uncategorized

 

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Couples Conversation – How do you react to Conflict?

Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats recently celebrated their 10-year anniversary. In a recent blog post on BET, the couple mentioned they never have raised their voice to each other.

In a blog written by Douglas Ernst, he stated that.

Raising your voice does denote anger, but a healthier way of conveying that feeling is to simply say, “I am angry.” If you say what you mean and mean what you say with your spouse on a regular basis, then that statement alone will be treated with the seriousness it deserves.

So I would love to know. When was the last time you raised your voice to your spouse? Did you get the satisfaction you were looking for? Did the problem get resolved?

 
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Posted by on August 3, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Couples Conversation – Will Relationships Change in a Post-Covid World?

 

When a COVID Vaccine is finally found, how will it impact the world of relationships, dating, and Sex?

Will we go back to the invisible labor that women have had to do for so long behind the scenes that have been totally brought into the open for many families during this pandemic?

Will couples no longer rush to cohabitate, because the ability to experiment and form relationships has been severely curtailed?

Will Zoom dating and Zoom sex become the norm?

All important things to think about as cases begin to rise as the pandemic lingers.

What do you think?

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you like leave a comment, or reach out at info@keithdent.com if you are having challenges in your relationship and dating life.

 

 
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Posted by on July 31, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Couples Conversation – Forgiveness and Accountability. Is it Possible?

Problems can arise in your marriage when a romantic partner makes a mistake, or treats you bad hurts you badly. In your marriage, can you forgive them while holding them accountable? Ultimately, the goal is to reestablish the relationship and prevent them from hurting you again. But, will forgiveness motivate them to “see the error of their ways”? Or, is holding them accountable the key to making sure the situation does not happen again?

 

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you’re having difficulty forgiving and or holding your partner accountable, check out http://www.keithdent.com. If you need help NOW, drop Keith a message at info@keithdent.com.

 

 

 

 
 

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Couples Conversation – Key to Holding a Relationship Together?

 

In a recent blog, Psychologist Jeffrey Bernstein said this, “In over 30 years as a psychologist, I have never had an adult look back at their childhood and complain that their parents were too understanding. And similarly, I have met many divorced people who still love each other but never really understood each other. My point is that many relationships have broken up and marriages have been torn apart not because the partners didn’t love each other but because they didn’t understand one another.”

So what do you do to better understand your partner?

Do you need help in this area?

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In The Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you’re in desperate need to understand your partner better to strengthen you bond contact him at info@keithdent.com.

 
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Posted by on July 28, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Couples Conversation – Your Growth! Do You Get Support?

Are you growing, but your partner and is resistant to that growth?  If ther is resistant, it can create an impasse for you as a couple.

If you are growing as an individual, has your partner noticed and what is he/she doing to support you in your growth?

Growth in a marriage requires attention, effort, intention and strong communication. In other words, change.

 

Keith Dent is a certified coach and author of In the Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you feel you need a change, but am not sure how to communicate that to your partner contact Keith at info@keithdent.com

 
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Posted by on July 24, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Couples Conversation – A partner’s growth!

 

A Growth-focused relationships are all about encouraging each other’s challenges and dreams. With that said, how are you inspiring your partner to take on a new professional or personal goal? In what area does your partner have room to grow?

 
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Posted by on July 23, 2020 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Is a Unified Black Lives Matter Movement Necessary! (Part 2)

In part 2 we continue the discussion of the Black Lives Matter Movement as we touch upon Christianity, Police Harassment, Public School Funding, and Reparations.

My guests include Eagleton Institute Professor, Saladin Ambar, Fox Sports Radio personality, Chris Broussard, and Educational Activist L-Mani Viney.

To listen to the show, click here.

 

 

 
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Posted by on July 20, 2020 in Black Men Speak!

 

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Is a Unified Black Lives Matter Movement Necessary!

In the first episode of my podcast, Black Men Speak!, I discuss what we need to do to create a National Black Lives Matter Movement that’s sustainable and impactful and get the results we desperately seek to become a more equitable nation.

My guests include Eagleton Institute Professor, Saladin Ambar, Fox Sports Radio personality, Chris Broussard, and Educational Activist L-Mani Viney.

To listen to the show, click here. https://blackmenspeak.libsyn.com/black-men-speak-episode-1

 

 

 

 
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Posted by on July 19, 2020 in Black Men Speak!

 

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