Brothas! If you are cheating be prepared to answer these 7 questions!

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Brothas, if you want my advice about marriage and relationships, there is one thing you should definitely know. If you are cheating on your woman, more likely than not that she already knows about it, or at least has an idea.

Most girlfriends and wives are highly in tune with their boyfriends or husbands mannersisms and behaviors not just towards them, but other women as well.

If you disagree with me and you feel you can continue to have an affair without ever facing the wrath of your partner, then you do you. I can pretty much guarantee that there will, indeed, come a time when you walk through the door and find her wide awake and waiting in the dark to ask you a full laundry list of questions.

So fellas, be prepared to ask these 7 questions if your partner suspects you of cheating.

Keith Dent is a relationship, life coach at Strive2Succeed Coaching. He is the author of the In The Paint: How to Win at the Game of Love and his work has appeared on sites like The Good Men Project, MamaMia, and The Real Dad’s Network. If this is you and you feel you are having trouble telling your partner about that you are cheating, contact me via email and let’s have a chat.

5 Ways To Remind Your Partner We Are Team.

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For some couples, the wedding has just ended and you are settling into your marriage routine. For others, you have been married for several years, you are all consumed by your kid’s activities and barely have enough time to sleep, let alone work on your relationship. But this question pertains to both sets of couples. Do you consider yourself a team?

According to a 2014 study that was highlighted in this New York Times article, most of us don’t when it comes to having a decisive marriage. We just simply slide through our marriages and the major decisions we have to make in order to feel like we feel like a team. What’s interesting about this study is that most of us have probably been on a team one way or another; from our sports teams as children to our present work teams. We have always relied on other people to get the job done and to win.

So why doesn’t it translate when we get married? The main reason is our approach. We don’t utilize the team concept when it comes to our relationships. We usually come together because the people we are marrying usually best meet our individual needs, not necessarily the best team. So when we have conflict with our partner or when that partner does something that is far too damaging, we find it’s just easier to change partners.

Even I, who have played on teams almost all of my life, found it difficult to handle arguments with my wife. The main reason was that I focused more on my needs than our needs. One of our more famous stories that my wife usually tells at parties had to deal with one of our adventures to the grocery store to buy formula for our infant daughter, Olivia, 22 years ago. Yes, it’s still fresh. We would normally buy Enfamil with Iron, but on this day, I didn’t have enough money in my wallet to buy it, so stupidly, I just bought the regular Enfamil. Well, most of you know what happened next. My wife was furious that I would put my need to keep a few extra dollars in the bank before the families’ needs of making sure our daughter was healthy and go the best. So the next day, she bought the one most expensive high chairs in the store. What did I say about this? Nothing, because I knew I wasn’t living the team first concept.

Does the lack of a team approach reflect your marriage? If so, check out the 5 phrases to remind your spouse you are indeed a team.

Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In the Paint – How to Win at The Game of Love. If you struggling with your spouse to communicate and work as a team and you need help click here for a free assessment.

15 Ways to Say To Your Woman, I Love and Appreciate You!

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Hey, men! Have you ever adamantly said something to your girlfriend or wife along the lines of, “You know I love you and appreciate you!”, only for her to wait for a beat and reply, “Thank you! But … why?”

Suddenly, you’re standing there tongue-tied, because like most men, you get uncomfortable when you feel vulnerable, and trying to articulate your deepest, innermost feelings can be rough.

It’s understandable for you to feel that way, but she’s still going to want to hear you say something romantic that tells her how much she means to you. — and one great idea too many people giving advice about dating, relationships and marriage forget is that there are so many creative ways to say “I love you” without necessarily having to come up with words of your own!

Here are 15 sweet things to say to your girlfriend or wife woman that say “I love you” and let her know you appreciate her, from the lyrics of some of the best romantic songs.

Your Marriage Needs These 7 Personality Traits If You Expect It to Last a Long Time.

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Married life is not easy and if you and your spouse have been together for a long while, you already know this. Love is not the only thing that keeps healthy relationships going.

I’ve seen couples who are similar to each other and couples who are complete opposites have successful lasting relationships and marriages.

In each relationship, these 7 personality traits are vital and a couple that has them will have a healthy relationship — and long-lasting marriage.

Original article appears courtesy of YourTango.

5 Ways to Know If Your Relationship Is More Than Just About Sex

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When it comes to transferring your relationship from sex partner to marriage material and a potential partner for life, you will have to dive deep and see if this man has the ability to be your future husband. Even though sex is usually the initial place where a man begins to connect with a woman, the both of you will have to make sure it’s deeper than the surface.

You will have to connect mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally.

So in order to figure out how to know if a guy likes you for more than just sex and if your sexual escapades are moving in the direction towards love check out this article for this YourTango article 5 Ways To Know If Your Relationship Has Potential (Or If It’s Just About The Sex)

Not Sure She Likes You? Here are 10 Clues To Let You Know She Does.

In this time of COVID, it’s really been challenging figuring out if a girl likes you or not.

If most of your conversations happen via texting, it will be almost impossible to know if a girl likes you since most women normally use non-verbal clues to get your attention.

So what’s a guy to do? What if you’re constantly asking yourself, “Does she like me?” while analyzing every letter and emoji in her texts?

If you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you check out 10 Kinds Of Texts Women Send To Men They Like (& What They Really Mean) by clicking here.

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15 New Year’s Resolutions For Couples To Make As A Team!

Now that 2020 has come to a close, I’m sure folks are ready to turn the page a move into 2021.

Resolutions are great because they gives you a chance to clear your mind, reflect on what’s important to you, and move in a positive direction, provide concrete goals that can give you focus and stability, and show others that you are striving towards your dreams. In fact, 74% of Americans say they’re determined to learn something new, make a lifestyle change or set a personal goal in an effort to better themselves in 2021. You can’t imagine the number of people that will be positively impacted!

When we think about resolutions, we usually think of individual goals we want to achieve for ourselves, like losing weight, getting a new job, or saving more money.

But my advice is that many relationships would improve if partners create New Year’s resolutions together as a couple.

Why is that important?

It means you will have a built-in accountability partner. Remember one of the famous acronyms for team is “Together Each Achieves More.” This will ensure that you and your partner stay committed to the resolutions you create.

You can also have fun with it by making it a date night activity and continuing to do so throughout the year as the two of you check-in with each other to see how your resolutions are going.

Finally, this provides an opportunity to celebrate your successes together. Being intentional about improving your lives will automatically improve your relationship or marriage.

To help you start your own resolution list, here are my 15 best ideas for New Year’s resolutions couples can make as a team.

1. Take a look back at the past year together.

By focusing on what happened the past year, you more than likely would have forgotten the little squabbles that impacted your marriage at the moment.

Looking back on the fond memories of the past year will help you look forward optimistically to the year ahead.

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2. Create a nutrition plan together.

It’s hard for an individual to stick to eating healthy when the other isn’t.

Creating a healthy eating plan together with exercise can not only help you lose weight, but you will also have more energy to do fun things together.

3. Set aside time on a daily or weekly basis to check in with each other.

Since communication can be the biggest challenge to a healthy marriage or relationship, it’s imperative that you carve out space to check in with each other.

This shouldn’t be the where you just check-in to talk about your resolutions, but talk about life in general.

4. Create a family mission statement.

This statement allows the two of you, as well as your children, to feel a sense of unity and  purpose.

It lets each member know that everyone is truly committed to each other’s success and growth.

5. Pay off a credit card.

It’s no secret that finances can be a source of stress and worry among couples.

Creating a strict budget or using the snowball method to pay down debt can make you generally happier.

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6. When it comes to sex, explore how you can be more creative.

If you have been married for a while making sex a priority can be challenging.

By infusing a little more creativity and fun in your sex life will all of a sudden make it a must thing to do for your marriage to thrive.

7. Read and discuss a helpful book about relationships and/or marriage.

Sometimes it’s hard to articulate the things you want out of marriage.

Having a book discussion about marriage can really get to the heart of the matter without trying to figure things out on your own.

8. Take turns choosing a new activity to try together each month.

This does a couple of things.

First, you get a chance to have a new experience as a couple every month. If nothing else, this means you will have 12 new stories to tell by the end of the year.

Second, by alternating who chooses the month’s activity, you will have to keep your partner in mind because you will want them to enjoy the event as much as you will.

9. Create a proactive plan for handling conflict.

As you are working to achieve your goals, you can’t expect every day to be sunny and rosy.

If you have avoided conflicts in the past, make plan figure out how to resolve them by remaining respectful.

10. Schedule your annual doctor’s appointments.

If you have your health, you have everything.

11. Choose a cause to volunteer for together.

This is a great way to live out your values and have a wonderful bonding experience at the same time.

You can get a fresh perspective on your life as husband and wife when you are supporting an organization or a cause that really needs it.

12. Plan to host a dinner party for other couples.

There is strength in numbers.

Hosting a dinner party allows you to talk about marriage in a fun and silly way and helps you understand that you’re not alone. Remember, social-distancing is still in affect.

13. Set a goal with your children.

Creating a family goal will not only teach your children how to set goals for themselves, it will create a strong bond with your children as a family unit.

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14. Schedule some time for yourselves.

Even with all of these mutual goals the two of you are working on, you must still leave some time for each of you to take for yourselves.

You will value each other more as a couple when you make the space and room to develop as individuals.

15. Plan a celebration.

If you can make and achieve at least 80% of these resolutions by the end of the year, 2020 will be awesome. Celebrate your growth as a couple.

Happy New Year!

Keith Dent is a certified coach and author of “In the Paint: How to Win at the Game of Love.” If you are struggling to communicate more effectively with your partner and set future goals, contact him via email to learn more about how he can help.

Best of Black Men Speak #1

In the #1 episode of 2020, I interviewed actors Herve Clermont, Chris Williams,, and Christopher T. Wood as we discussed their journeys in Hollywood. We covered several topics from how they got started to the different microaggressions they faced trying to hone their craft. This episode was so fun, and it helped me understand their greatness wasn’t just on screen, but what they did daily to challenge themselves and to keep working despite the obstacles. If you didn’t get a chance to hear their stories, check it out now https://blackmenspeak.libsyn.com/black-men-speak-epidsode-6-pt-1.

Best of Black Men Speak #2

Will Black Men’s Mental Health Be The Next Pandemic

In this episode, I interviewed two brothas, Michael Cox and Brandon Williams about the stigma around black male mental health stigma what steps they are taking to educate and empower men to look at themselves more holistically. If you missed this episode check it out here https://blackmenspeak.libsyn.com/episode-13-will-black-mens-mental-health-be-the-next-pandemic.

Best of Black Men Speak #3

Is A Unified Black Lives Matter Movement Necessary!

Our first episode was on the heels of the murders of Ahmaud Arbery, George Floyd and Breonna Taylor. I talked with Professor Saladin Ambar, Fox Sports host of the Odd Couple Chris Broussard, and Educational Activist L-Mani Viney around the issues of police brutality, the nationwide protests to creating policies that will make our nation more equitable. If you missed this flagship episode check out the link here. https://blackmenspeak.libsyn.com/black-men-speak-episode-1