Yen and Yang! Salt and Pepper! Beyoncé and Jay-Z!
In order to be a power couple, it’s critical that you find a partner with complementary strengths. We often feel either are partners should be happy you married them. Like they need you more than you need them. Even worse, that you can carry the marriage all by yourself with enough determination and perseverance.
Those thoughts are myths. Your complementary strengths can be the most dynamic part of your marriage, but you must make sure you do these three things.
Truly understand their strengths – It’s not enough to know that your partner is different, you must rely on those differences to move your marriage forward.
Acknowledge their strengths – By putting your partner in a position where they use their strengths helps maximize their ability and helps them have their needs satisfied.
Leverage their strengths – resist the temptation to resent your partners strengths especially during times of conflict. They must be accepted and used as much as possible.
In the end, you and your partner have weaknesses and blind spots that can create challenges to having a great marriage. If your partner’s strengths can show you the light or help avoid or remove the obstacles it makes the marriage journey that much sweeter.
What are your partner’s strengths?
If you are having trouble identifying or acknowledging your partner’s strengths, I would love to hear from you. Give me a shout at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free 30-minute consultation.