Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats recently celebrated their 10-year anniversary. In a recent blog post on BET, the couple mentioned they never have raised their voice to each other.
In a blog written by Douglas Ernst, he stated that.
Raising your voice does denote anger, but a healthier way of conveying that feeling is to simply say, “I am angry.” If you say what you mean and mean what you say with your spouse on a regular basis, then that statement alone will be treated with the seriousness it deserves.
So I would love to know. When was the last time you raised your voice to your spouse? Did you get the satisfaction you were looking for? Did the problem get resolved?
In a new memoir, “It Takes Two: Our Story, Property Brothers star, Jonathan Scott, isn’t shy about how he contributed to his divorce.
He states that “I think when you are young and you don’t really know what you want in life, you can commit to something and think at the time it is right.”
Most people give many reasons why they get divorce from infidelity, not having the same vision, to loss of intimacy, even finances. One thing is clear, we usually will blame the other person for the reason our marriages fail.
In #LOVETOPICTUESDAY, if you are one that has been divorced how did you contribute to the demise of your marriage? What tips could you give others that are on the verge of ending their marriage?
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Before you drop that guy or girl due to boredom, examine how you are spending your time as a couple.
It maybe due to the fact that you have run into a routine just like Danielle Colley did which almost doomed her relationship.
What can help you get out of the rut is creating a series of lists that may put the energy you need back into the relationship and provide a closeness that’s second to none. A list like this can help remind you what really matters, and help maintain positivity, clarity, and peace amongst the craziness of everyday life.
So as the weekend is approaching, you and your partner should sit down individually and create these four lists. By doing this exercise you may find some similar interests that you never knew you had. The four lists are as follows:
- Lists of Books you might read.- this list will give you different topics to talk about. You will get a perspective about a person you never expected when you are talking about a fictional story as opposed to what’s happening in social media.
- List of activities you would like to do together – according to a recent study 94% of couples are happier when they spend quality time together versus 43% of couples that don’t. By having a list for activities that you would like to do will keep you from doing the same thing every weekend.
- List of new things you would like to learn – will keep you brain sharp as you progress in your marriage.
- List of places you would like to see – this will help you create long-lasting memories as you explore new places. Traveling to other countries not only give you the opportunity to see new things as a couple, it also gives you the opportunity to explore on you own.
So before you head out to another movie, or dinner, create that list so you can put that extra energy you need back into your relationship.
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Gentleman, have you ever noticed when your spouse comes to you with an issue, or she is mad about something? You offer her advice and how to handle the situation and she goes of on you? Well you aren’t using the right words. Here are the FOUR words that will help diffuse any argument and help keep the peace. Are you ready? Here they are!
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According to research done by Drs. John and Julie Gottman marital conflict is 69% of conflict in marriage is perpetual. Meaning it has no resolution because it’s based on lasting differences in personalities and needs.
So the #iLoveStrong question of the day. How do you deal with issues that constantly come up in your marriage. Can you discuss them gently with your spouse or do you live in a state of “gridlock”, a painful impasse?