Honey, Does this dress make me look fat? Now that’s a question most of men aren’t willing to tackle because you know that you might have to stretch the truth in order to keep the peace at home. But, your constant stretching may lead you to start doing it on a regular basis. This lack of direct,honest communication may lead to you to not be trusted by your spouse.
How may you ask? Well let’s go back to the dress scenario. Let’s say you answer like most men do, and tell your spouse she looks wonderful. While your out on the town together, and she catches you looking at other women that walk by,or if you really don’t show her the attention on your date, then she will have a hard trusting you the next time she asks you something important.
According to Stephen Covey’s The Speed of Trust there are three reasons why it’s important to be truthful and direct when it comes to relating better to your spouse.
Talking straight is the act of being honest. It tells your spouse that if there is any issue or concern she has, she will be able to trust you will give her honest feedback
Talking Straight can help you leave the right impression. – What that means is how you are communicating to her is so clear, there is no room for interpretation on her part.
Talking Straight will save time and aggravation. – Think about all the time and energy you have wasted over your marriage trying to clarify and convince your spouse that you were telling the truth. If you start to develop a posture of straight-talk it will add years to your life.
If you are having a hard time grasping this concept, answer these questions for me.
- What keeps you from talking straight. What type of fear comes to mine?
- Are you aware of the type of conversations do you have? How often do you spin?
- How often do you find yourself explaining your thoughts with your spouse?
- Would you ask her to give you feedback?
If you are having trouble answering these question, it might be time to contact a coach for support. If that is you, please contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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