Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats recently celebrated their 10-year anniversary. In a recent blog post on BET, the couple mentioned they never have raised their voice to each other.
In a blog written by Douglas Ernst, he stated that.
Raising your voice does denote anger, but a healthier way of conveying that feeling is to simply say, “I am angry.” If you say what you mean and mean what you say with your spouse on a regular basis, then that statement alone will be treated with the seriousness it deserves.
So I would love to know. When was the last time you raised your voice to your spouse? Did you get the satisfaction you were looking for? Did the problem get resolved?
Are you growing, but your partner and is resistant to that growth? If ther is resistant, it can create an impasse for you as a couple.
If you are growing as an individual, has your partner noticed and what is he/she doing to support you in your growth?
Growth in a marriage requires attention, effort, intention and strong communication. In other words, change.
Keith Dent is a certified coach and author of In the Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you feel you need a change, but am not sure how to communicate that to your partner contact Keith at firstname.lastname@example.org
The question of the Day has to do with Healthy Relationships!
In a study from the University of Chicago, researchers found that when a husband has a high level of positivity, there’s less conflict in his relationship. Likewise, the way partners respond to each other’s good news matters too. In a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researchers found that the way couples react to each other’s good news—either with excitement, pride, or indifference—is crucial in forming a strong bond.
So the question of the day is What does a Healthy Relationship look like? What components are necessary?