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Do you have the Magical Kitchen when it comes to Love?

For all you foodies out there, you take your kitchen to heart. But do you have the Magical Kitchen when it comes to Love. Here is an excerpt from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Mastery of Love that explains what I mean.

Imagine that you have a magical kitchen in your home. In that magical kitchen, you can have any food you want from any place in the world in any quantity. You
never worry about what to eat; whatever you wish for, you can have at your table. You are very generous with your food; you give your food unconditionally
to others, not because you want something in return from them.

Then one day someone knocks at your door, and it’s a person with a pizza. You open the door, and the person looks at you and says, “Hey, do you see this pizza? I’ll give you this pizza if you let me control your life, if you just do whatever I want you to do. You are never going to starve because I can bring pizza every day. You just have to be good to me.”

Can you imagine your reaction? In your kitchen you can have the same pizza – even better. Yet this person comes to you and offers you food, if you just do whatever he wants you to do. You are going to laugh and say, “No, thank you! I don’t need your food; I have plenty of food. You can come into my house and eat whatever you want, and you don’t have to do anything. Don’t believe I’m going to do whatever you want me to do. No one will manipulate me with food.”

Now imagine exactly the opposite. Several weeks have gone by, and you haven’t eaten. You are starving, and you have no money in your pocket to buy food. The person comes with the pizza and says, “Hey, there’s food here. You can have this food if you just do what I want you to do.” You can smell the food, and you are starving. You decide to accept the food and do whatever that person asks of you. You eat some food, and he says, “If you want more, you can have more, but you have to keep doing what I want you to do.”

You have food today, but tomorrow you may not have food, so you agree to do whatever you can for food. You can become a slave because of food, because you need food, because you don’t have it. Then after a certain time you have doubts. You say, “What am I going to do without my pizza? I cannot live without my pizza. What if my partner decides to give the pizza to someone else – my pizza?”

Now imagine that instead of food, we are talking about love.

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Posted by on October 23, 2012 in Mastery of Love

 

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Why removing the mask is key to Love Mastery!

 

 

In our last post from our Mastery of Love series, we talked about removing the mask so we could reveal our true selves. How do these masks develop in our lives? We create masks in order to be accepted in our world.

Think about it. As young children we just play with whomever will play with us. They don’t worry about how good they look, who their parents are, or what kind of future in business they have. But, as children age and interact more with adults, they project their masks onto the children, so they imitate those behaviors in order to be accepted.

According to Don Miguel Ruiz, author  Mastery of Love, puts it this way. “We create not just one image, but many different images according to the different groups of people we associate with. So if you find that love mastery has alluded you, it might  because you have put on a different mask to match the person you were dating, or have changed masks with your spouse in order to reduce conflict.

We think we are projecting the right mask, but at the same time don’t believe what’s behind the mask.

If your relationships have been floundering, what sort of masks have you been wearing?

 
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Posted by on September 13, 2012 in Mastery of Love

 

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