It’s hard to explain and even harder to imagine, but when you meet the one, it just happens. After years of getting phone numbers, dating, break-ups, I finally met PG. The funny part about it was it was totally unexpected.
When you meet a person, just after the “hello,” he/she starts sending you information right away. If it’s right he/she willingly will share their dreams with you. They will open up and won’t even know they are doing it. That type of connection can be intoxicating, and oftentimes lust can get in the way. Somehow, we still seem to mess things up. Why?
According to author Don Miguel Ruiz, in the The Mastery of Love, we don’t ask the right internal questions. Eve though, I knew PG was the one for me, I still had to ask some important questions:
- In reference to my last post, was she the dog for me, or should I be with a cat, or a horse. When you aren’t clear on who you want, and you make the wrong choice, you try to make it work. You are responsible for your own choices, if it isn’t working, simply make another choice. Ruiz says, “You must know what you want, how you want it, when you want it.”
- In order to deal with a person on an everyday basis, you must find a person that is closely aligned with you. PG and I are total opposites in almost every way except for our values and our love for family. When you meet that person, don’t be afraid the person isn’t exactly like you. If you compliment each other, go with it.
- In the beginning project who you really are. This will take a little maturity on your part. Ruiz states, “In order to buy, you want to see the quality of what you are going to get. But in order to sell, you need to show others what you are.”
- Continue to keep your eyes open. Don’t be blind or pretend to see what’s not there. Over time, the person may reveal their true identity. If you see something that doesn’t align with what you want, have the courage to walk away.
- If you have been in a relationship a long time and have struggled connecting, you might have to look internally and accept who you are. Once you do that, truly accept who they are.
- Finally, relationships are work and I mean WORKS of art. In order to keep the two of you happy, you must work to keep your half perfect.
So Strivers, if you are struggling with your half of the perfect relationship, what step can you take toward making it better?