6 Ways Single Moms Can Raise Their Son To Exemplify Positive Masculinity.

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When your relationship ends after you have children, you may worry about many things.

Work-life balance, guilt for not being able to spend as much time at home, and fatigue from trying to carry the entire load — emotionally, cognitively, and psychologically.

And if you’re raising sons, you may have an additional worry: How do you raise them to exhibit the positive qualities of manhood?

Boys need positive male role models who can show them traits of positive masculinity.

But what if your ex-husband has no plans to financially, socially, emotionally, or mentally raise your son to be the man you want him to be?

The first thing I want you to do is to take a deep breath and remember this: Don’t believe the hype! You can do it!https://b6b83d5f24e957ebc35f61813cdff5d8.safeframe.googlesyndication.com/safeframe/1-0-38/html/container.html

Did you know that Presidents Barack Obama and Bill Clinton, actor Leonardo DiCaprio, and comedian Kevin Hart are just a few successful men that have been raised by single mothers?

To read what positive masculinity looks like when you are a single mom raising your son, click here.

Who should Stay Home? The High Income Wife or the Do-Gooder Husband?

In this version of She Said vs. He Said there is a dilemma going on in 22% of the homes across the country according to a Pew Research Center study? When the wife makes clearly more money than her husband, who should stay home when their child is sick.  This decision is a challenge to make without knowing all the information about my story, so let me set it up for you.

I had a client that wanted me to serve as mediator over a particular issue. She has a high pressure, profile job as an office manager for a financial institution. He has a Master’s Degree in Non-Profit Management and is instrumental in running a small non-profit organization.

Early in the morning, they find out their daughter is running a high fever and there is no chance that she will be able to go to daycare. They discuss who will stay home with her for the day. Knowing that his job is more flexible, usually can stay home, but on this day he has to prepare for an upcoming event that is the next day and since he has been out of the office must go in. She has a very important meeting that involves some important changes that will affect the office, and with her affinity for keeping her boss on an even keel and bringing peace to these types of situations feels that she should go in.

Who should Stay Home? The wife who makes more money, or the bleeding heart husband who is lucky he has a wife that excels financially so he can do good?

I would love to hear who should stay home and your reason?