She Said/He Said – an Entrepreneurial Dillemma

This weekend, I was fortunate enough to attend a two-day Father/Son basketball camp with my oldest son. There were many dad’s that were there either trying to reclaim their youth or was just excited to spend some quality time with their son. For me it was a little bit of both.

While at breakfast, I struck up a conversation with Ronald, a fellow Jerseyan about his statistics. You know, where are you from, what do you do, etc…What was fascinating to me was not what he did for a living, but what he gave up. Ronald was an accomplished, self-taught IT entrepreneur that worked for Charles Schwab for 20 years until he was recently laid off. He decided to go out on his own and after a few months and was making the same money just working 3 days a week. When he wasn’t working he would spend his free time on his motorcycle, taking care of the kids, or doing what IT people do, play on the computer. He felt things were going well.

His wife on the other hand didn’t view his career choice the same way. She was a successful accountant that worked very hard 5 days a week. Even though her husband felt he was doing well, she felt that he wasn’t working hard enough, especially when she saw how much fun he was having. She felt that if he could earn the same amount of money working just 3 days a week, imagine if he worked every day. This was a source of conflict for them as couple. Ultimately he gave up his entrepreneurial dreams and went back to a 9 to 5.

In this post of  He Said/She Said who do you feel was right?

Should the husband have stuck to his guns and maintained his business?

Or, the wife for wanting him to have more structure and work as many hours as she was.

Relationship Question of the Day..Do you prefer Planes, Trains, or Automobiles?

I’m a person that likes to look around when I’m driving. I always wonder when I see couples not talking to each other and staring into space, they must not be happy?

According to a recent survey conducted by YourTango.com in collaboration with Ford –  refutes my assumption. The survey reveals that couples that  spend a long time in the car have a positive impact on relationships.

Virtually 90 percent of surveyed couples who have taken a road trip together say it strengthens their relationship. And being in the right kind of car is key to forging that bond.

The survey also reveals that more than 77 percent of couples look forward to taking more trips with their significant other.

The best reason to take a road trip together is not where they’re going, say 44 percent, but the fun and adventure of the trip itself. More than 40 percent say the quality time afforded them is the best reason for a road trip

In fact, for most couples life is about the journey – it’s not where they end up, but the trip itself that gives meaning to their relationship. Happy couples everywhere will admit the magic happens in the car.

When asked to list the top three activities they spend their time on the road doing, almost 80 percent of respondents report they talk and catch up on each other’s lives, 70 percent enjoy blasting their favorite music, and nearly 55 percent take in the sights and have some quiet time.

Nearly all respondents agree their best conversations happen on the road. Of the kinds of conversations they have, more than 65 percent say their discussions are serious, meaningful talks.

But talk isn’t all they do – romance plays a big part for couples on the road, too. According to the survey, 74 percent hold hands and smooch at red lights.

So the question of the day, do you prefer to take a road trip with your spouse, or would prefer another mode of transportation? What was your favorite road trip?

Coach Keith