Should I play house before I get married?

This past weekend the New York Times ran an opinion piece about The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage.

Meg Jay,a clinical psychologist at the University of Virginia and author of “The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — and How to Make the Most of Them Now,” states that a problem occurs when one partner feels they slide to one day to the next without any real concrete plans, while the other enjoys the fruits of paying half the expenses and reaping the rewards of intimacy without a real commitment.

Meanwhile, Hanna Rosen, author of the blog XX Factor says the complete opposite. “Playing house is the norm for young women.  Nearly 60 percent of women aged 25-39 have lived with a partner and the number among younger women is nearly 80 percent.

So Strivers.  Is Cohabitation the way to go? If not, how did the effects of living with someone and not getting married affect future relationships.

I look forward to hearing from you.

 Coach Keith