“A good relationship has a pattern like a dance and is built on some of the same rules. The partners do not need to hold on tightly, because they move confidently in the same pattern, intricate but gay and swift and free, like a country dance of Mozart’s.” – Anne Morrow Lindbergh
When we get married, we expect our marriages and the roles we create should be a certain way. For example, the man should be the provider, the woman the caretaker. If you try to hold onto those roles when it may not be what is needed to make your home thrive can be a source of stress and a challenge in your relationship.
In your marriage, both of you should come to some a AGREEMENT about what you desire and expect from the other person. A good way to do this is through a Family Mission Statement.
Last week, we gave you the symptoms for Weekend Relationship Syndrome.
I hope you found that you didn’t suffer from this disease. If you did, don’t worry, you aren’t alone.
One of the by-products of this illness is the negative energy that flows all around you and your marriage. The first step to eliminating this is to bring positive energy back into your relationship. Here are 4 energy boosters needed for you to get you back on track.
- Take care of yourself as individuals. – If we tend to not feel good about ourselves, we will normally voice that to our partners. Instead, we will deflect our pain onto them. STOP THAT! Figure out what you need to do to take care of yourself before you take care of the relationship.
- Break free of old habits. – Your relationship can get into a rut, especially if you always do the same things, argue the same way, or go out to the same places. Exploring and learning new things can spice up any relationship.
- Make intimacy a priority. – Hugs can do a lot to break down intimacy barriers. Make a point to start there then find different ways of touching in order to create positive energy.
- Make it a point to not say and do anything to deliberately injure the relationship. A person that is careful will “measure twice, cut once.” Being deliberate not to hurt your partner takes strength and planning. Work together to design a strategy on how you will interact with each other in times of conflict or pain.
Following this prescription will help cure a case of Weekend Relationship Syndrome and create the positive energy flow needed for a sucess.
Here are 5 symptoms that will let you know if you have Weekend Marriage Syndrome?
- When you are barking about the fact the morning coffee wasn’t made rather than kissing your partner good morning.
- When your time spent together during the week consists of a headnod of acknowldegement in separate cars on your way to work.
- When the last gift you purchased for your partner was a personal hygiene product at the grocery store that you forgot to buy last week.
- When date night consists of a picnic at your child’s sporting event.
- When making love becomes a check-off so it doesn’t remain as another item on the to-do list.
If you suffer from this disease, there is HOPE. Contact Coach Keith immediately to help restore some balance in your relationship, reclaim the love and intimacy that has been missing, and remember the reason why you came together in the first place.
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