Texting is a perfect form of communication when it comes to daily interaction with your wife. First of all, it’s quick. So much so that 77 billion messages are sent around the globe daily. Secondly, you can also multi-task especially if some important thoughts come to your head when you are in a boring business meeting you can send it out. Third, it can enhance your relationship if you and your spouse have the same texting style.
One drawback is to avoid resolving conflicts and making important decisions over text. By not talking about these things face-to-face it can make things worse because you can’t read tone or body language from a text.
So if texting is an important mode of communication with your wife then here are 12 Do’s and Don’t in what women want to hear from you in a text.
Don’t Send a text that will spark a fight!
It will only escalate more when you finally come together because words can be misconstrued without tone and non-verbal cues.
Do Send a thinking of you text.
Your wife wants to know you are thinking of her and at some point during the day you probably are so why no let her know.
Don’t Send the Dismissive text.
The “K” text can be the powder for an explosive outburst from your wife. When she is expecting more of a response from you and all she gets is one letter it can lead her to conjure up what you’re feeling or thinking and it probably won’t be good.
Do Send the Your Right text.
Your wife wants to feel that she is heard and that her opinion matters. By sending her a text telling her “she’s right” lets her you were listening to her.
Don’t Send the Your Cray-Cray text.
Did this ever work when you were talking face to face and there wasn’t laughter at the end of that statement? Then why do you think it would work in a text? Don’t do it!
Do Send the What can I do for you text.
What’s great about this text is that it’s open-ended. It will let your wife know you will serve her in any way she needs.
Don’t Send the rambling text.
Especially if she asked about your feelings before you left for work and you said, “Nothing!” This could be a signal to your wife that you’re uncomfortable sharing your feelings unless you’re in front of a screen. Allow yourself to be vulnerable.
Do Send the Flirty text.
Sending that flirtatious text show desire. In marriage, it’s a part of the intimate relationship that can spark the chemicals in your brain and make your sex life more intense. Send these texts early and often.
Don’t Send the Not Now text.
If you’re busy then say so and let her know when you can text her back. The words “not now” will surely not go over well especially if full-blown text conversation with someone else when the two of you were out to dinner. It will send a signal that she isn’t a priority in your life.
Do Send I’m glad to share this journey with you text.
Because marriage is a journey there are ups and downs and your wife wants to be assured you’re along for the ride.
Don’t Send the ________ text.
The non-responsive text is a definite “no-no” If your partner sends you a text she’ll expect a response. By not responding it shows her you’re not as connected as she thinks. That way cause you to be moved to second place on the ICE (In Case of Emergency) list.
Do Send the let’s go out tonight text, the kids are taken care of.
Your wife wants to spend time with you, but she also knows that if the kids aren’t taken care of she won’t really have a good time. By not only planning what you are doing for the evening but also securing babysitting will guarantee the both of you will have a great time.
Texting is an easy way to stay connected to your wife at any time and in any place. Knowing the right and wrong thing to say in a text can enhance the communication you have with your wife avoid misunderstandings.
Keith Dent is a certified relationship coach and the author of In the Paint – How to Win at the Game of Love. If you need a consultation, contact him at firstname.lastname@example.org