When you are entrenched in a 40+ hour workweek, navigating your children’s schedule, or trying to carve out a little time for yourself, it can be difficult to create a big picture for your marriage.
Having an understanding of the big picture mind-set is imperative if your goal is to have a great marriage. The first thing a couple must do is individually understand what a team first mentality means. This is a very courageous thing in our current society that is so focused on individuality.
So what are the six steps you must take to create a big picture environment in your marriage?
- See the Big Picture.
Seeing the Big Picture takes vision. The faster the two of you can define and understand the vision, the faster you will be able to move towards it. Like Paul Arden said, “Your vision of where you want to be is the greatest asset you have. Without having a goal it is very difficult to score.”
- Assess the Situation.
Once you understand your vision, then you can assess where and how you are going to achieve it. Understanding this can be frustrating especially if you have a long way to go to get on the same page. If you are committed to having a great marriage, you don’t run away from the challenge, you tackle the opportunity.
- Seek resources if needed.
One of the biggest hurdles to moving closer to the big picture is knowing when you need additional resources. I remember reluctantly using a landscaper to cut my lawn because that meant, I didn’t have the time do it myself. The problem was that I didn’t have the time, but I didn’t have time to do it as frequently as needed. My wife had certain expectations on how she wanted the lawn to look like, and since I was working and couldn’t meet that need, it was best to hire someone to do it.
- Your Health is So Important.
You have to be in your right mind. If you are suffering physically or mentally it’s going to affect the big picture for your marriage.
- Maximize Personal Agendas.
A great motto that came from John Maxwell’s “Law’s of Teamwork was “The Goal is more important than the role.” What that means is in all decisions you must think about how it will affect your spouse and your family. If your choice is going to cause your marriage to go backwards, then you’re making the wrong choice.
- The Big Picture may for you to step up
If you are going to move close to the big picture, you will have to shrug off your stubbornness and old mind set to move forward. In the end by not changing, you only hurt the one’s that need you the most.
If you feel you are struggling to identify and design a big picture for you marriage contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org