Love Letter “E” is for Excuses.

clueless-man

Have you ever used any of these phrases that started like this:

  • “The reason why I forgot is…..”
  • “It wasn’t my fault. See what happened was…”
  • Don’t blame it on me…”

Sometime and hopefully not often in your relationship we make these excuses when things go wrong. Ultimately with each excuse we are slowly eroding the very thing that’s supposed to keep us together, which is our responsibility. In our society we are so geared toward perfection; picking a perfect husband/wife, having the perfect marriage, raising the perfect family that when mistakes come to the forefront we tend to have an excuse why they happen instead of owning up to them.

One of the good things about mistakes, or obstacles is that help us grow stronger in our relationships and by trying to whisk away problems with excuses only weakens it further.

The longer your partner listens to your excuses, the sooner they will hear them as statements of guilt and not the statements of  innocence in which they were intended. The person being deceived will not be your, but you the excuse maker.

So in order to rebound from a myriad of excuses follow these steps:

  1. You must have an awareness of your tendency to make excuses.
  2. Understand the situation and the reasons why you would justify your actions.
  3. Understand that mistakes aren’t goals, but as an opportunity for growth and illustrate a need to improve your relationship.
  4. Taking responsibility is a choice
  5. By allowing your deed to stand on its own, you will regain the respect even though it may seem difficult in the beginning of this journey.

So if you are a person that has a habit of making excuses and aren’t sure how live an authentic life, contact Coach Keith at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com for a free 30 minute consultation.

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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

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