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Discussion Saturday – Marital Conflict

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According to research done by Drs. John and Julie Gottman marital conflict is 69% of conflict in marriage is perpetual. Meaning it has no resolution because it’s based on lasting differences in personalities and needs.

So the #iLoveStrong question of the day. How do you deal with issues that constantly come up in your marriage. Can you discuss them gently with your spouse or do you live in a state of “gridlock”, a painful impasse?

 
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Posted by on April 13, 2013 in iLoveStrong QoTD

 

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Fun Friday – Too Much Social Media Could Hurt your Marriage!

Bernie Hogan of the University of Oxford’s Internet Institute said in a statement at the Annual Conference of the British Psychological Society.

He found that more media use in love can be a sign of a strong marriage — but only up until a certain point. There seems to be “a cut-off point” after which the upkeep of so many separate channels gets cumbersome and might undermine relationship ties.

On this Fun Friday..Here is a couple that have obviously reached their breaking point with the use of social media.

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Posted by on April 12, 2013 in Fun Friday

 

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5 Lessons of about your Marriage kids learn by your example: Part 1(Love)

Believe it or not, our kids are learning about marriage through our example, and not what we say about marriage. With that said, this new 5-part series will focus on how we can teach kids the keys to a strong marriage by the examples we show them in our own marriage.

The first way of course is by how we LOVE. Saying, “I Love you.” isn’t enough especially since our children go through several stages of development.

When a child is an infant, you need to show love immediately and it needs to come from both parents. Since they haven’t begun to talk yet, it’s important that they get to know your both your voices, you both hold them and you both take the time to interact with them.

family#1aAround age 2, you will need to discipline them as a part of love. If you train the child early and often, hopefully they will continue to live the lessons you have taught them when you are apart.

At around age 10, you children learn the importance of your love when you spend time with them. If there are certain activities/interests you see that your children are passionate about, do as much as possible to acknowledge their passion and promote opportunities to follow it.

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When your kids reach the pre-teen level their mode of thinking tends to be black/white? the love you show for your spouse will really be important because that will be the time when kids are trying to form positive relationships themselves. Showing your spouse outward displays of Love in a respectful way will help them to model how they should be treated as they enter their relationships.family#3

So the #iLoveStrong question for the day is, what outwardly ways do you show your children that you Love them and your spouse?

Coach Keith

 

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Fun Friday – Mike Rice Treatment!

If you have been listening, or reading the news lately, Mike Rice, former Rutgers basketball coach was fired for a video tape that showed him verbally and physically abusing his players.

On this Fun Friday, imagine husbands if you came home it got the Mike Rice treatment from your spouse? It would look a little bit like this?

How would you handle it?

 

Have a great weekend.

Coach Keith

 
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Posted by on April 5, 2013 in Fun Friday

 

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Every Man should have a Marvin Gaye alter ego!

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Today is Marvin Gaye’s birthday. He is hands down one of the best male artists that we have ever had. He was very versatile as a singer, but I enjoyed his lyrics because of his directness when it came to the women in his life. Maybe Robin Thicke, should take a page out of his book instead of singing Blurred Lines, he should’ve have been telling Paula..I WANT YOU!

As men, we have lost the art of direct communication with the women that are in our lives. In fact, a couple of women over the past couple of days were frustrated by the fact that the men in their lives couldn’t effectively communicate what they wanted from the relationship. You know what they need? They need the Marvin Gaye Man puppet to help them.

Here are some of the lyrics that your Marvin Gaye Puppet can help you in specific situations when dealing with your lady.

My first thoughts when we first meet!

And I thought to myself
(Ooh, on the floor)
She was so into her space
(She started to dance, would she)
So caught up in the time and the place
And I wondered would she want me
(Ah, wonder if she, she’d go for me)
If she knows what she needs is me

I really like, you but I’m not feeling the same from you.

I give you all the love, I want in return, sweet darlin’ But half of love is all I feel. It’s too bad, it’s just too sad, you don’t want me now. But I’m gonna change your mind, someway, somehow, oh baby

Let’s take our relationship to the next level!

Come live with me angel woooo

Come live with me in comfort

Come chill with me angel. Come live with me in comfort.

I love the way we make love!

Oh in my dreams I was loving you.Every place that you wanted me to.Since I’ve been having dreams and fantasies baby.I’d like to make love to you right there baby
I’ve got this real strong need that loves you everywhere.I won’t stop until I find your passion flowing like wine.Baby, baby please let me do it to you.

On Marriage!

So if you got a girl and you want her for your wife
You got to treat her good and love her all your life.

Our Marriage to Death do Us Part!

I’m so grateful baby, grateful that you’re lovin’ me.My desire.Is to love you ’tilI ‘m no longer here and never tire.You always been so good to me, me now. I’m so thankful

If you are able to use you Marvin Gaye puppet successfully, you can eventually get to the point where you can sing your lyrics with your lady. But, if she needs one too..I suggest she get a Tammi Terrell Puppet.

LIke an eagle protects his nest, for you I’ll do my best.Stand by you like a tree and dare anybody to try and move me. (MARVIN) Darling in you I found strength where I was torn down.Don’t know what’s in store but together we can open any door.Just to do what’s good for you and inspire you a little higher.(TAMMI)I know you can make a man out of a soul that didn’t have a goal. (MARVIN)

 

 
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Posted by on April 3, 2013 in LoveStrong Tips

 

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