In our last post from our Mastery of Love series, we talked about removing the mask so we could reveal our true selves. How do these masks develop in our lives? We create masks in order to be accepted in our world.
Think about it. As young children we just play with whomever will play with us. They don’t worry about how good they look, who their parents are, or what kind of future in business they have. But, as children age and interact more with adults, they project their masks onto the children, so they imitate those behaviors in order to be accepted.
According to Don Miguel Ruiz, author Mastery of Love, puts it this way. “We create not just one image, but many different images according to the different groups of people we associate with. So if you find that love mastery has alluded you, it might because you have put on a different mask to match the person you were dating, or have changed masks with your spouse in order to reduce conflict.
We think we are projecting the right mask, but at the same time don’t believe what’s behind the mask.
If your relationships have been floundering, what sort of masks have you been wearing?
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