Why can’t our Women Trust Us? We don’t possess all the elements.

Today, I was speaking to a former student about one of her posts on FB. She had some anxiety about a situation about her boyfriend and how she was going to handle it. Is was about the essence of trust and how he had violated it several times.

Why do most issues  of trust  involve the husband, or the boyfriend? Why do we as husbands, or boyfriends scratch our heads when their female partners grill them about their whereabouts or extra-curricular activities? Some of us don’t possess all the elements needed to have a trusting relationship.

As men we are conditioned to live a certain way; strong, fearless, be the best.

On the flip side, we have to hide the bad aspects of our life, our weaknesses, the bad behavior and our fears. That sort of machoism may work in other circles of our life, but keeping those things a secret works in reverse when it comes to relationships. Why?

Our connection with our partner relies on creating a deep connection with your partner. The deep connection allows to desire, become passionate and gracious toward one another. These essential elements help form the love life you crave with your partner.

When our partner doesn’t see us as trustworthy toward the relationship, our connection suffers, thus the relationship suffers.

So what are some of the elements of trust that we as men need to develop.

Trust involves Risk – We have to be willing to break out of our cocoon that we place around our lives to avoid getting hurt. We can’t tell our partners:

• I’m good, when we aren’t
• Pull away because we want to pout, or don’t like what she has to say.
• Continue to keep a bad-habit a secret.
• Disconnect, or break-out because our flaw will be exposed.

We have to acknowledge and validate our partner’s vulnerability – Our partner may not reveal their true self because the energy you give off doesn’t invite her to do so. If that is in your heart, you must understand where that is coming from and make the necessary changes.

Take your partner’s ability to trust very seriously. If your woman, has taken the necessary steps to give you her trust, you must work hard to maintain it. Usually there has been point where her trust has been abused and she is hoping you won’t do it again.

If you happen to be in a relationship that has trust issues, in the next blog we will give tips on how to repair it.

Coach Keith

 

Keith Dent, is President and CEO of Strive 2 Succeed Coaching Services, an organization that helps individuals and groups strengthen their communication skills and understand how to hear each other deeply and with empathy. Understanding is the cornerstone of successful, harmonious relationships.