Should I play house before I get married?

This past weekend the New York Times ran an opinion piece about The Downside of Cohabiting Before Marriage.

Meg Jay,a clinical psychologist at the University of Virginia and author of “The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter — and How to Make the Most of Them Now,” states that a problem occurs when one partner feels they slide to one day to the next without any real concrete plans, while the other enjoys the fruits of paying half the expenses and reaping the rewards of intimacy without a real commitment.

Meanwhile, Hanna Rosen, author of the blog XX Factor says the complete opposite. “Playing house is the norm for young women.  Nearly 60 percent of women aged 25-39 have lived with a partner and the number among younger women is nearly 80 percent.

So Strivers.  Is Cohabitation the way to go? If not, how did the effects of living with someone and not getting married affect future relationships.

I look forward to hearing from you.

 Coach Keith

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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

One thought on “Should I play house before I get married?”

  1. If a woman wants to get married to the man, she shouldn’t live with him. Otherwise, she’s going to always be the girlfriend. Look how long it took Shannon Tweed to get Gene Simmons to marry her. Two kids and what, 25 years?

    Doesn’t make a difference for the man.

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