When we say we are in love, we don’t often think about how we are receiving love in return until we realize that wasn’t the type of love we needed.
So what is love? One thing for sure as written in 1 Corinthians 13 verse 7 is “Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
This type of love is consistent, in contrast to the type of love we are used to, being “In love”. In fact the “in-love” phenomenon can hurt a marriage/relationship. The “in-love” experience is temporary until the desire for emotional love resurfaces because it’s fundamental to our nature.
We grow up craving love; Loving our favorite toys,our parents and our friends. If you have ever noticed a child seeking attention by misbehaving or acting out, then you have seen a child whose love tank is empty.
In order to maximize how you love your partner, ask them how they feel most loved. According to Gary Chapman’s best-selling book ‘The 5 Love Languages’ the distinct love languages that are mentioned are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical touch
Strivers, how do you feel loved? Please share! If you don’t know take some time to figure it out!
Coach Keith