Enjoy your marriage now! You may have only a 20 year window.

It’s no secret that we as Americans are getting married later in life or not at all. Ten years ago according to the U.S. Census Bureau..the average age for first marriage for males to females was 26.1 to 23.9 respectively. Today the age is 28.1 to 26.2.

There many factors that have pushed the age higher. Individual economic stability is primarily the main cause for the age to increase, plus the opportunity to meet more people have also reduced the trend to marry later in life.

Either way, if you do find your “soul-mate” you should consider yourself blessed.

Once you do find your soul-mate, you should do the little things to make sure you keep them. Why? Divorce!

According to a New York Times, more Americans in their 50’s and beyond are sacrificing comfort for freedom. About half of us will be calling Judge Toler of the ‘Divorce Court for greener pastures.


I have a real problem with this! What happened to fighting for the love and companionship during good times and bad?

People change., situations change..I get that. If you make a few adjustments you can have a marriage that can thrive and be long-lasting.

Make companionship a priority – which means that as a couple you should explore new challenges. In any relationship if you continue to do the same things that can get boring.

Make a point to allow you spouse to have alone time. When our spouse says, “I need to some time alone!” We tend to get nervous because that can signify there is a problem. When we get to retirement age, we have usually lost a little bit of individuality because we are no longer forging relationships outside of our homes. Try and circumvent that by finding something that you enjoy doing outside of your marriage. It can not only boost your communication time with your spouse, but also your energy because you are following a passion.

Continue to Communicate – constant chatter is still important. If you are having issues or concerns..talk about it. If you have let things fester for years, it’s about time you share them, instead of biding your time to leave.

In the New York Times article cited above, Katie Dunn mentionee, “When I think about the future, sometimes it’s with trepidation,” she said. “But this is the life I’ve got. It’s up to me to make it what I want.”

That is understandable..just why can’t we say the same thing about marriage?

Coach Keith

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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

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