Relationship Gratitude Day 19 – A picture is worth a thousand words!

Today you are going to go on a relationship scavenger hunt. As part of relationship gratitude day nineteen, you are going to find 5 things, or symbols that signify how you feel about your spouse. The one stipulation is if you feel you have to purchase some items for your scavenger hunt, you can only spend $5 for the entire project. This will force you to really be creative. For example, ‘PG’ and I played this game several years ago and one of the things I used to describe her was a “lightbulb” to signify her intelligence and that I admired her for being a deep thinker.

Creative visualization, can change, or strengthen how you feel about yourself, thus change your reality.

Either way, I guarantee the scavenger hunt will be fun and interesting and will change the reality of bond with one another. If you have kids, share this exercise with them. They will appreciate the exercise and it may carry over in their relationships as well.

Please share some of the items that you use for your project. I would love to hear them.

Happy Hunting!

Coach Keith

Relationship Gratitude – Day 18 Letters are great, but you are only as good as your last date!

For the past 18 days, we have spent a lot of time poring into our spouse with affectionate heart-felt words, but it’s the weekend, time to take action.

Today’s action, go on a date with your partner. Try and do something different. Ask your partner what is one thing you would like to do together that we haven’t done. Remember, by planning an event for your partner, you are showing him/her  their feelings matter.

Don’t forget that if you have kids, make sure you secure a baby-sitter as soon as possible.



Relationship Gratitude – Day 17 (Be a Relationship Role Model!)

Inspire others!  In today’s society, we tend to keep things that are important to us private, especially in regards to our relationship. One challenge is there are couples out there, especially young couples that come from single-parent households that may not have any role models when it comes to relationships. They would benefit from hearing your story. They would benefit to know you can have obstacles in a relationship and be grateful for those challenges because your relationship has improved.

Today, move out of your comfort zone of privacy and describe one unexpected blessing you’ve received in a status update on Facebook or Twitter. Visit the Facebook page “Strive 2 Succeed in Marriage/Relationships“, or S2SinMarrriage Twitter Page and share your blessing.

Relationship Gratitude Day 16 – (Feed me Seymour!)

In the movie, “Little Shop of Horrors”, the main character Seymour played by Rick Moranis, is a nerdish florist who finds his chance for success and romance with the help of a giant man-eating plant who demands to be fed.

In the clip, we see how important it is for Audrey, the plant, to get her food. She will do just about anything for a good meal. Even though not that extreme, we have seen the expressions on our partners faces when they have just eaten something spectacular.

In honor of relationship gratitude, make your partners favorite dish, or take him/her to their favorite restaurant. Last week, I made lasagna for ‘PG’s’ birthday and she is still talking about it. Showing that you care about your partner by preparing their favorite meal can go a long way to ease the hunger of conflict in your marriage.

Relationship Gratitude Day 15 (Thank you for taking out the trash!)

We have reached the half-way point of Relationship Gratitude Challenge. I hope that you have been able to laugh, cry, smile and enjoy your relationship up to this point. I hope most of all that things have improved between you and your partner.

If you are newlywed, or you have been married a long time. You have been through some stuff. Or maybe there was one moment that changed everything.

As part of Relationship Gratitude Day 15 lets remember those bad times, the frustrations, failures, and losses. Write them down, share them with your partner then throw it away. This is one note that you don’t want to keep.





In relationships we tend to hold onto the negative forever and it keeps us from moving forward together.

Notice how much better things are now. Focus on resiliency and renewal.


Relationship Gratitude – Day 14 (You got to have a J.O.B.!)

In today’s culture, the husband or the wife can be the primary wage earner in the house. That can bring a different dynamic when it comes to managing the family unit. That doesn’t mean that one job of managing your family is more important than the other.

Acknowledge your partner’s financial, practical, and emotional contributions to the household. Look him/her in the eye and say, “Thank you for working to support our family,” or Thank you for doing the laundry,”  or Thank you for being a great husband, or wife; a great dad, or mother.”

Relationship Gratitude – Day 13 (Strollin’)

Physical activity can always bring a special connection especially the partner that craves physical touch. As a form of relationship gratitude, take a walk together in the park.

Couples who spend their most enjoyable time together tend to have great marriages, and those who do not, tend to divorce.

If walkin in the part isn’t your thing, then go out an throw the football around, or go bowling. Either way, you will find that it will stimulate not only your heart, but your muscles as well.

Relationship 12 – Those that can give together, love together.

Come together as a couple to volunteer your time and skills to serve others. Work at a soup kitchen, or support your local senior center. If you aren’t sure the activity you would like to do for the day, go to or to find local support.

For the first time, you may see a different side of your partner that may help you to love them in a much greater way.

Those that can volunteer together, stay together.

Relationship Day 11 – You always have time to be thankful!

I know this post is later than usual, but in life things happen. It still doesn’t mean you can’t show gratitude to your spouse. You may not have time to write a letter, but what else can you do?

Remind your partner of a phrase of something funny you use to say to each other. It’s always good to look back to more simple times when you were just married and you didn’t have any obstacles.