Most of the time that statement is based on a characteristic of your partner you don’t particularly like and you use the children to let him/her know about it. Did you ever think, those type of statements can often chip away at his/her self-esteem? The reason, because the anger and frustration you feel towards the children must reflect how you feel about him/her.
Think about what negative statements do you use towards the kids, that you indirectly equate with your partner?
For day 9 of relationship gratitude, let your partner know the positive characteristics that your children have that is based on him/her.
For example, “I love the fact that our child is so smart. He is just like you.!”