As President of Strive 2 Succeed Coaching Services, I am excited to sign the new Marriage Stimulus package that will go into effect immediately for all married couples and couples in long-term relationships. This is bound to pull us out of this love recession couples have been going through for a long time. This 10 step plan that I have created should be followed in order to get us back to full relationship growth.
Step #1 – Establish a common purpose!
Our marriages usually follow this common theme. Meet, go out on a few dates, feel the chemistry, test the chemistry physically, get engaged, plan an elaborate wedding and then try to figure out marriage along the way. No matter what stage you are in marriage, you should work to create a common purpose whereby you create the best version of yourself.
Step #2 – Define what will make your relationship great!
Each relationship is different. We basically will judge our relationship based on the assumptions that theirs is better, when that necessarily might not be the case.
Step #3 – Keep your target stationary!
Due to our constant need for satisfaction, we will keep changing our relationship to meet those standards often at the expense of pain. At times we have to celebrate no matter what that we have a great marriage. Congratulate our partners for hanging in their with us and our different personalities and fine tuning our marriage frequently.
Step #4 – Make a great relationship seem possible to achieve!
Don’t define your marriage in such idealistic terms that it seems unreachable. Marriages will have problems and conflict. If you don’t budget for that, it will often leave you frustrated and disappointed.
Step #5 – Believe in a Great Relationship!
If you don’t believe in your partner and that they want the same things, then you won’t achieve it.
Step #6 – Make your relationship a top priority!
If you don’t take action on your marriage stimulus package, you can’t achieve your vision. You can have a great plan, but it won’t achieve itself.
Step #7 – Follow through!
The marriage stimulus package must have follow through. Schedule monthly sessions with your spouse to assess that you are going in the right direction. Depending our how much you need to jumpstart your growth, weekly, even daily sessions may be necessary.
Step #8 – Hold your partner accountable!
If our partner at first isn’t 100% devoted to the plan, we have the tendency to point fingers and just give up. That didn’t work in the past and it won’t work now. Holding your partner accountable means knowing when to challenge, and when to encourage, when to confront an issue and when to just let the issue go.
Step #9 – When challenges come, DON’T GIVE UP!
If you live long enough, you will face major obstacles. It’s the same in marriage. If you stayed long enough, you will face a major obstacle. Don’t throw in the towel. Go back and review your purpose. Tweek it if necessary, and keep going.
Step #10 – Speak to a Strive 2 Succeed Coach
Or another coach or marital counselor. Give it a shot. You don’t have to utilize a coach only for marital problems. A coach can give you different techniques to enhance your communication skills. For more information, contact me at info@strive2succeedcoaching.com.
According to Matthew Kelly, author of The Seven Levels of Intimacy states “There is nothing like stepping back from the day-to-day busyness of your life and while considering new and exciting ways to improve and refine your primary relationship.”
I believe if you define and stick with your plan, one year from now, you will see a difference.
It’s time to end the LOVE RECESSION!
President Keith
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