The Oval Office is about to shut down unless you get this road fixed!

A story that might have gone unnoticed this week was the fact that 250 women from a  town called Barbacoas, near the Pacific Coast of Columbia declared a “Crossed Legs Strike.” Their reason, they want their husbands to get off their couch and lobby government leaders to get the roads fixed.  Over the past 20 years, the roads have been pretty much unusable, since it takes over 10 hours to travel 30 miles to the next town.

We are tired of the incompetence and attitude of our husbands who are not capable of demanding the governor to construct a better road for the town. They may be man enough to order us around at home but they are too weak to fight for our rights in society,” one woman participating in the protest told the press.

Apparently, the Cross Legged Strike is catching on since Kelly Ripa is using this tactic to get her husband to fix their roof, or better yet, call the contractor to do it.

When I counsel clients that use ultimatums in their marriage, I immediately try to locate the source of this issue because the act of witholding something is really not the problem. At some point, the person handing out the ultimatum feels they have lost control and wants to get it back. On the other hand, this fear-based tactic can surely backfire on you. This very act of trying to gain control can result in the other person checking out completely.

If those 250 men decide to leave town in the middle of the night, it will take their women 10 hours to catch up to them.

Have a Happy and Safe Holiday.

Coach Keith

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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

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