Welcome to a new segment I call She Said/He Said. It’s an attempt to empower newly married couples by reading stories of couples that have persevered to remain married 20+ years. According to Divorce Magazine, first marriages on average last 7.9 years. If you have the opportunity to stay married to the same woman/man for over 20 years it should be celebrated. And if you want to reach this milestone, why not receive information from some of the masters.
In the second edition of She Said Vs. He Said I had the pleasure of interviewing Bryce York and Tonya York currently of Columbus Ohio. I met them at my church, several years ago. The are very warm people so I am not surprise why they came together, but let’s hear what SHE SAID.
- What was the initial thing that attracted you to your wife/husband.
The initial thing that attracted me to Bryce was his personality. He’s very down to earth, easy going kind of guy, and great person to be with. I’ve never seen someone give as much as Bryce does. I’m very safe and secure with him.
2. When was the moment that you can remember. He was the one you wanted to marry?
Bryce knew he wanted to marry me was within a couple of months. However, it took me a little longer. Keeping in mind that Bryce is initially 6 years older than I am, so I wanted to be absolutely sure he was the one for me. It only took an extra 4 to 6 months.
3. In your 20+ years of marriage what has surprised you the most about marriage?
Bryce loves me like it’s our first date. His love is very unconditional, very constant.
4. What are the three things that have helped you maintain your marriage longevity?
Prayer, Communication, and the ability to fall in love with each other over and over again.
5. Knowing what you know now, would you have approached marriage in a different way early on? How?
I would not take the little things for granted, our journey has taken us to several destinations and I wish I would’ve have concentrated on the important things that keep us together. Since I am a high energy person, I am constantly moving forward. I would take the time to sit still.
6. What are 3 things modern day couples should do in order to achieve longevity in their marriage.
Trust each other
Make sure that time is set aside with one another to continue to strengthen the relationship.