She Said vs. He Said (York Edition)

Welcome to a new segment I call She Said/He Said. It’s an attempt to empower newly married couples by reading stories of couples that have persevered to remain married 20+ years. According to Divorce Magazine, first marriages on average last 7.9 years. If you have the opportunity to stay married to the same woman/man for over 20 years it should be celebrated. And if you want to reach this milestone, why not receive information from some of the masters.

In the second edition of She Said Vs. He Said I had the pleasure of interviewing Bryce York and Tonya York currently of Columbus Ohio. I met them at my church, several years ago. The are very warm people so I am not surprise why they came together, but let’s hear what SHE SAID.

  1. What was the initial thing that attracted you to your wife/husband.

The initial thing that attracted me to Bryce was his personality.  He’s very  down to earth, easy going kind of guy, and great person to be with.  I’ve never  seen someone give as much as Bryce does.  I’m very safe and secure with him.

2. When was the moment that you can remember. He was the one you wanted to  marry?

Bryce knew he wanted to marry me was within a couple of months.  However, it took me a little longer.  Keeping in mind that Bryce is initially 6 years older than I am, so I wanted to be absolutely sure he was the one for me. It only took an extra 4 to 6 months.

3. In your 20+ years of marriage what has surprised you the most about  marriage?

Bryce loves me like it’s our first date.  His love is very unconditional, very constant.

4. What are the three things that have helped you maintain your marriage longevity?

Prayer, Communication, and the ability to fall in love with each other over and over again.

5. Knowing what you know now, would you have approached marriage in a  different way early on? How?

I would not take the little things for granted, our journey has taken us to several destinations and I wish I would’ve have concentrated on the important things that keep us together. Since I am a high energy person, I am constantly moving forward. I would take the time to sit still.

6. What are 3 things modern day couples should do in order to achieve  longevity in their marriage.


Trust each other

Make sure that time is set aside with one another to continue to strengthen the relationship.

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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

2 thoughts on “She Said vs. He Said (York Edition)”

  1. Awe, I miss the Yorks! 20 years is a milestone and have 19 and half more years to go! Definitely will take note on taking the time to sit still – though I look forward to many years with my husband I know that time can fly! So happy to hear “from” you two!

    Nice blog Keith! Enjoying the posts.

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