Today’s Marriage Music Monday selection is Contentment by Kindred.
I selected this song because Contentment is one of main principles of what marriage that can be so elusive if we aren’t careful. You have to put yourself into a position to be content daily. As the lyrics say below:
Ohhh when you came into the world
You stole that show
And it’s been a pleasure to watch you grow
When I look to your eyes I know I done good
And I wouldn’t change one moment if I could
Our family is growing nicely
And our waistlines ate growing slightly
But I take everyday as it comes to me
Waiting on God to fulfill my destiny
Usually when we get married at a young age it was based on the fact he/she was the most beautiful person we had ever met. You were drawn together by an instant chemistry that was unshakeable.
As you grow in your marriage, your chemistry can be tested by outside elements; children, temptation and change. If you take every day as it comes to you as the lyrics describe, it’s truly a blessing.
So how do I become content in marriage?
1. Give what you want to receive. Trying to get what you want from your partner by using controlling and manipulating tactics often doesn’t produce the desired outcomes. If it does, the cost will be resentment from your partner.
If you give your partner what you value rather than in the previous approach it can produce a better outcomeprovided you have trust and patience.
2. Contentment is not a one- time event; it’s an ongoing process. It’s easy to be content at the wedding. It’s a party. Everyone loves parties. There is a series of moments where you must choose to be content. The hurts, stress, disappointments and dark times in the marriage are events that can threaten the essence of your vows. When you get through these periods, you can truly celebrate for sticking it out.
3. The joy and fulfillment you receive from marriage is greater than you can imagine. – When we marry a particular person it’s because deep down we felt that person would see our beauty, talent and our potential that we don’t always see ourselves. They would cultivate our good qualities and confront us on qualities that aren’t as strong. Being able to grow together to see the transformation is better in the trenches than seeing the growth at a distance.
Have a great Marriage Monday!
Coach Keith
