Dear Joe/Dear Jane – How Coach K helped me view marriage differently.

Dear Joe,

I just wanted to let you know that I love you very much and I want our marriage to move forward despite the challenges we’ve had recently.

I want to sincerely apologize for the silent treatment I  have been giving you for the past several weeks. Iwas so hurt because you couldn’t understand how important the birthday party mean to me. I was so hot, I had to call Coach Keith and I let him have it. When I was finished venting about you and the situation surrounding my anger, he helped me to see that the silent treatment I was giving you was slowly eroding all the love deposits that I had built up in our marriage. Even though I was truly hurt by your actions towards my party, it’ s not more important than our marriage.

I also learned that I have to be more honest and deliberate in my words and actions even if you disagree or maybe disappointed. And I hope you will do the same thing for me. I would rather our relationship be open and honest than not acknowledging our true feelings and sabotaging them by our actions.

I hope at this point my trust can be restored even deepened by our fresh start.

I love you, and I am truly sorry.



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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

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