Dear Joe/Dear Jane: Confession of how Coach K helped me view marriage differently!

Dear Jane,

I just wanted to let you know that I love you very much and I want our marriage to move forward despite the challenges we’ve recently had. Being married to you is the best thing that has happened to me. I am glad that out of this crisis we have become more open to share our feelings.

I am really relieved that you were able to stick with me even though I put our marriage in jeopardy. I knew that night was going to be trouble when I went out with Mark that night, but I allowed my bad judgement to rule the moment. At the time, I felt that it was the only outlet I had. I was so confused about what to do and how to feel about us.

After you initially kicked me out of the house..I made an appointment to speak with Coach K. I told him what happened and the confusion I was having over what was going on. He was able to help me clarify what was bothering me. I was feeling smothered by your possessiveness.  I never had someone who cared so much about where I was going and what I was doing that I couldn’t comprehend it. Coach let me know, that my distance, or my inability to openly share my thoughts led to your inquisitive behavior. Since I was too immature to open up and tell you how I felt, I suppressed them until had to seek comfort of another woman.

I don’t condone my behavior and I have grown to regret that I was even capable of disrespecting you like that. One thing that I don’t regret is the fact that I feel that our marriage is stronger and more resilient than I ever realized. Since I have never been around a stable marriage, I figured that I had lost you forever. It’s a blessing to me that a woman of such character chose me to be your husband.

I know that I haven’t completely regained your trust

I am truly sorry. I will do whatever it takes to get your trust back!

I hope someday that you can forgive me completely.Since you are still here with me gives me hope that it’s possible.



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Keith has over a decade of experience in the field, counseling and coaching individuals, couples, teens and their parents to help them improve their relationships and their ability to achieve their personal goals. For the past seven years Keith has developed specific programs to help teens and their families achieve success in all facets of their lives that may have eluded them in the past. Academics, relationships, athletics, college preparation and applications, goal setting and developing specific plans are areas where working with Keith as a Coach can help young people set the patterns that promise a brilliant future. He works with couples to help them achieve the kind of relationship they envisioned when they first made their commitment to each other. Strengthening communication and revitalizing their understanding and empathy for each other helps couples regain the romance and closeness they long for – even in their everyday “real” world. Having a coach is like having a GPS for life. Keith can help you get a realistic picture of where you are and focus on the best path forward toward your goals. Unlike counseling, coaching focuses on the future, not the past.

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